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| Wed, 10-15-2008 - 6:54pm |
This is a first for me... lol...
so last night, i convinced the babysitter to give me a couple hours after work to wind down at my neighborhood bar. yay, it was great getting out. (i know i know.. the bar scene) It was a fairly quiet night and i was just chilling, when i saw a familiar face. So since I was out to be social, i went over to talk to him.
Turns out he's a fulltime single dad, 38 yrs old, two daughters (8 and 10). And he's a Chef, so his nickname will be Chef. He was quite good looking for an older fellow. We had a really fun time chatting \ flirting. We ended up exchanging phone numbers and i got a text greeting today.
side note: i also heard from MM today via text.
Anyway, at least Chef understands singleparenthood and getting a sitter, etc. And it was refreshing to chat with someone who was not afraid to show me that he was "into" me.
Loonybunny

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Um... he's only 2 yrs older than you...
ROTFL... oh ya.
how you knew he was "into" you ... He paid me compliments. He told me how much fun he was having talking to me. He bought me a drink. He told me how funny, beautiful, etc i was... He sat close to me. Said he had seen me several times and was glad we finally got to talking. Asked me when i was coming out again. (prob next week Tuesday night again) We had talked before but not for very long, like last night. The way he looked at me... And after you all were talking about how i needed to meet a single dad, i was very interested in learning more about him (maybe i'm the one who never paid him any mind before?). He told me how his night was boring before i showed up.. etc. I mean, who knows if he was only interested for one night or if he'll call. But i felt good being social. And like i said, it was refreshing.
You guys can get your kids together for cook outs and watch DVD's and stuff!!!!
I'd say the same exact thing Loony.
I think you need to be careful not to take advantage of a new sitter. NEXT thing you know, your going to be stressing about finding another one again and SOON.
no, not "done"... i'll still be seeing him at meetups probably. he'll be in the friend zone but i still have a crush on him. something about his mind is fascinating. but i'm not going to overthink anymore or get ahead of what's really going on. I reread that book "He's Just Not That Into You".... wrong or right, MM does not display the "into you" qualities ...
what i like about the book is that it also writes about what it should look like.. what a guys does when he is into you, etc. And it's very humorous....
As for the single dad, i just met him, and exchanged numbers... i didn't become his girlfriend. It may not be anything or it might be something. But i'm glad that i was open to meeting him, etc. And it was also exciting to me that find him attractive. It was a nice change from the younguns.
One more thing.... now i kind of understand what guys think \ feel when they meet a single mom. cuz i thought about Chef's daughters and his responsibility to them, etc. And i couldn't help but think about "how i would i fit in that role?"... so, that made me realize what MM might be overthinking... i understand how he would be overwhelmed at the thought of 5 kids. Or maybe even be intimidated (like the ex suggested). When i think single dad, I think he doesn't have time to waste on a short fling, etc.. and i think about my intentions. If i didn't have long term in mind, ultimately i wouldn't date a single
Loony I know you have five kids, but aren't two of them living with their dad?
At this point, I'll only deal with guys with kids. It's sooo much easier, I think, because they get it (usually) when you can't focus only on them, when you have to cancel, when you can't talk at any time of the day. Plus, you have something else to talk about. If you start chatting about what is happening with one of your kids, chances are they can relate to it, so you aren't necessarily boring them with kid talk. Plus, a couple of times, I have gotten some decent advice about things going on with my kids.
Good luck!
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