Miffed, venting, lonely, bummed...

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Miffed, venting, lonely, bummed...
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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 10:45am

I can't remember what nick name I gave this guy.. but a bit of history. The guy I met from my single parents group that was so recently separated that we agreed to just be great friends but we couldn't keep our hands off eachother when we'd see one another. lol


Anyway...when we agreed to be friends I told him: I'm fine with friends, but I'll admit that when you finally realize that you're ready to date, and its not me.. my feelings will be hurt. So I see on his myspace "disapointed" I was like awe whats wrong? He said Debbie cancelled on me. I said who is Debbie? He says my girlfriend. I was like umm ok? Actually I said "Wow, umm ok? I knew I'd feel like this... feelings officially hurt"


So then with Medic giving me zero comfort over my break in ordeal, and not even checking up on me.. then I have HC coming out of ghost mode and coming at me with very obvious sexual motives I'm feeling very very sad.


The break in just made me realize how unbelievably alone and lonely I am. I feel like a good cry is near. I mean, I don't feel like I need a man to keep me happy its just that I am just seriously alone here. My friends are so stuck inside their own bubbles, and my family have all moved away... I'm just sad today, very sad.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 10:49am

(((((((((((((hugs, T_J))))))))))))))))


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 11:18am
I don't know what to offer, other than hugs like Shrimpy did. (((((HUGS))))) I hope you get to feeling better really soon.

 

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 11:18am

(((HUGS)))

We've all had moments like that. Go ahead and have a good cry. You'll feel better afterward. Then go and do something. One could call me an expert for pulling myself out of the loneliness funk, after all, I spent quite a lot of my marriage feeling that way! I do something creative, it always helps me feel good about myself as an independent, separate individual.

The break in was a really unnerving thing. Any of us would freak out about that, it is such a violation. Change the locks and feel safe again.

Remember , you really aren't alone. The ladies on this board may not be physically present in your life, but each one of us is a real, physically existing person, walking the same path.

QB

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 11:47am

((((hugs))))

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:02pm

Holy Moly! Thats scary! Was your front door locked when you left?

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:08pm

((((((((hugs)))))))


I'm sorry you're feeling sad. I know the feeling, we have all been there. I wish I could do something to cheer you up! If I were near I'd stop by and we could just ty and have a good laugh. And if that didn't work..we'd break out the chocolate!


It just sounds like a lot of man disappointent all happned together. It is dissapointing that Medic did not respond to the break in with much concern. And then on top of that the My Space dude and then HCs inuendos...ugh.


Maybe it is sign to hang up the dates for a week or so and focus on what you love to do yourself, take yourself out, and the kiddo. Sometimes just refocusing on the other things in life and away from the man factor can help tremendously. I do understand the lonliness.. I've been there.


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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:08pm

Oh wow!

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:21pm

I was in the middle of projects when all this happened. I finished them up last night, and my living room looks great, I'm very happy/proud of what I accomplished. However the single parents group guy just for some reason sent me over the edge. The girls will be home in a few hours, we'll be going out for some icecream of something. I have not seen them in days, and miss them terribly.


Funny how something like the break-in can really open your eyes and show you exactly where you rank in someone's life. I'm still a bit amazed at the flood of emotions from the whole thing.. and in the end all that was left in my head was.. you're all alone, they don't care. So yah.. I'm having a hard time right now.. but I'll get over it, I always do. I just need my vent spot :)

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:31pm

I've had those moments too.

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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 3:55pm
Big {{{{{hugs}}}}} TJ.
I can not believe that guy from your single parents group- jeepers wasn't it only a month or so ago that you met him & he said it was "too early" for a relationship?! What a jerk!
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