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| Sat, 09-08-2007 - 9:34pm |
I took my daughter to the movie theatre to see a movie with a boy she has been talking to since the first of this summer. I didn't want to do this. SHE'S NOT SUPPOSE TO BE THIS OLD YET! then I remembered that when I was 13 I was meeting boys at the local movie theatre. Thing was, my mom didn't know (she probably did, but I didn't tell her). SHEESH!! This is scary!
I'm leaving the house to pick her up in a few minutes. I can't wait to get her back home!

And then kissing... more dates... and then 1st base and 2nd base and .... YIKEEEEES!!!
Mark who is a father of a 14 yr old daughter who does not have a boyfriend...YET
Double Yikes AND Ouch is right. It is so hard to have to "let go" but you have to. She was so nervous on the way there that right before we got there I asked her if she wanted me to turn around, course she said no. We pulled up in front of the movie place and there he was. Definitely not what I would have picked out. He had on what I call those long shorts, kinda baggy and a long t-shirt, stocky built with a buzz cut. She was very confident. And I told her, you know what to do if he gets handsy! LOL OMG!! So then I had to come back home and WAIT.
I couldn't get there fast enough to pick her up. When I get there she and one other girl is standing there by themselves! She gets in the car and I'm like hey, he didn't wait with you?" Come to find out he had caught a ride with a friend and his friend's dad picked them up and wouldn't wait. At least she had someone to wait with. On the way home, she said "Don't get mad"....course my heart started pounding in my chest....."but he kissed me on the cheek." Holy Crap! Some sloppy 14 yr old kissed my baby on the cheek! Ewwww! I told her as long as she is up front with me about things I'll do my best not to be mad OR as mad. Sounds like they mostly elbow-wrestled over the armrest. All in all I think she had a nice time.
Times like this is when you are praying to God Almighty above, that they actually listened when you discussed dating, demanding respect, and also all the "Just say no" commercials on TV.
Yikes is right!!!! I think that will be the hardest thing- to set a child "free" into a dating situation, after all our years of dating as adults, and knowing how NUTTY it can get! And it's not any less NUTTY for teens where the hormones are raging and thoughts are not as clear! Yikes-yikes-yikes!!!!
But I'm glad things went okay for your DD. :-)
After hearing all that, let me tell ya... I'm glad I don't have a daughter! But at the same time, let me tell ya- as a mom of 2 BOYS who will be the ones out there being watched for being too forward or handsy or kissy... I will do all I can to teach my boys to NOT be one of those rowdy, obnoxious handsy ones that will be trying to take advantage of your girls!!!! It's not all about teaching the girls how to resist advances. It's also about teaching the boys about not MAKING those advances, too!
~shrimpy, hoping that her efforts won't just go completely out the window at the first sighting of a cute girl
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I remember being thirteen and going on group dates. My parents probably weren't thrilled about it, either.
The thing that worked for us is my parents not acting like it was a big deal at all. I always went with two or three of my closest girlfriends and since it was a small town, we were always friends or at least aquaintances with all of the guys.
All of that being said, I can honestly say I am so incredibly glad I have several more years before dealing with this with my own children! My princess just lost her first top tooth, which was our milestone this weekend.
I'm sure your daughter had fun, and what a great mom for letting her go, even when you yourself werne't ready!
Moody, celebrating the small victories of motherhood
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My oldest starting going on group movie dates with other boys years ago, but that is only because Europe is very different. You do not have any individual dates whatsoever until you are about 18. I like that MUCH better and it relieves me to know Alex loves big crowds and feels weirded out by a real one on one. She will be 14 next weekend. I started with kissing at 14 and my first at 15. I shudder now when I think my daughters could be that young. I was just a child! I talked my high school boyfriend ( I threatened to break up with him, if we didn't do it) into doing it and then it was so painful we didn't for almost a year and a half after that. LOL! I am semi-honest with my kids, so Alex knows I was young, just not "how" young. I told her I was 16, but that it was awful and when I did it again I was much older.
Those are just conversations you wish you didn't have to have, but I know it's better to be open, communicative and honest.
Cat - with a handful of girl hormones.....
Oh wow - the idea of that is scary - but at the same time after watching a friend with 3 teenagers, I see that kids are a lot more social now and do a lot more "chaperoned dating" where the parents take them and pick them up and they are out with groups of friends a lot more and also have home parties with the parents really going out of their way to entertain but without alcohol - it doesn't seem so much like it was with us where we were driving and out and about so young and so on our own. I would tend to want to keep it chaperoned as long as possible.
Fortunately my DS is really into sports and thinks girls have cooties.