Mission Accomplished-2nd date
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Mission Accomplished-2nd date
| Wed, 02-02-2005 - 9:36am |
Well ladies I survived the 1st date nerves. Ironically I met this guy though my ex mother in law. He is the son of her best friend so she's known him since he was a kid. I do still speak to my xMIL (been separated over 2 years, D for over 1) because she is my son's grandma and she helps me out with babysitting and such. WE get along great and she knows about my X & how horrible our relationship turned out.
The guy is only here on vacation for now but his folks live here and he's been thinking about moving back here. He lives about 10 hours drive away, but comes back here a lot for vacation. he has another 10 days here then goes home for 2 weeks then comes back.
So the guy picks me up at my house and we left to go to dinner. I'd been craving Mexican food for a couple weeks so we went to a little Mexican place not too far from my house. The food was good and the conversation was good, for a first date I guess. A couple times I was sitting there thinking..."man it's been quiet for 60 seconds I should say something." LOL
We both admitted to being nervous but I didn't tell him I almost puked, my stomach was so upset. Then after dinner we went for a drive because it was kind of cold out and he said he wasn't ready to take me home yet. He flirted and I smiled. It was fun. Then we went back to my place to check out some thing on TV and talk a bit more. I figured i'd be more comfortable in my house, and I was. We talked some more, about his job and his nieces and my kid and growing up in our home state. He left about 10:30 and I got a quick good night kiss. Well 2 actually. heehee He asked to see me again way before he left and I agreed. So I got to the 2nd round. LOL and had fun too.
He’d already met my son at his mom's house and I had met him once before years ago when I was at his mom's with my X. He and my son couldn't get along better. A group of us went out to dinner one day last week (the first night i'd seen him in 4 years) and my son was in love with him and entertained him all through dinner. I almost didn't want to go out with this guy because my son liked him sooo much. I didn't want to break my DS heart if it didn't work out. So far DS doesn't know I’ve seen him outside of when we went out together with my xMIL.
So that's it for now. Any comments? Critiques? pats on the back? :)
It was fun but i'm not sure how someone could say they enjoy the excitement of a 1st date.
thanks again for yesterday!!
sara
The guy is only here on vacation for now but his folks live here and he's been thinking about moving back here. He lives about 10 hours drive away, but comes back here a lot for vacation. he has another 10 days here then goes home for 2 weeks then comes back.
So the guy picks me up at my house and we left to go to dinner. I'd been craving Mexican food for a couple weeks so we went to a little Mexican place not too far from my house. The food was good and the conversation was good, for a first date I guess. A couple times I was sitting there thinking..."man it's been quiet for 60 seconds I should say something." LOL
We both admitted to being nervous but I didn't tell him I almost puked, my stomach was so upset. Then after dinner we went for a drive because it was kind of cold out and he said he wasn't ready to take me home yet. He flirted and I smiled. It was fun. Then we went back to my place to check out some thing on TV and talk a bit more. I figured i'd be more comfortable in my house, and I was. We talked some more, about his job and his nieces and my kid and growing up in our home state. He left about 10:30 and I got a quick good night kiss. Well 2 actually. heehee He asked to see me again way before he left and I agreed. So I got to the 2nd round. LOL and had fun too.
He’d already met my son at his mom's house and I had met him once before years ago when I was at his mom's with my X. He and my son couldn't get along better. A group of us went out to dinner one day last week (the first night i'd seen him in 4 years) and my son was in love with him and entertained him all through dinner. I almost didn't want to go out with this guy because my son liked him sooo much. I didn't want to break my DS heart if it didn't work out. So far DS doesn't know I’ve seen him outside of when we went out together with my xMIL.
So that's it for now. Any comments? Critiques? pats on the back? :)
It was fun but i'm not sure how someone could say they enjoy the excitement of a 1st date.
thanks again for yesterday!!
sara

sounds good sara, woo hoo!
I think it's the thrill seeker, high adrenaline people among us who actually ENJOY the first date jitters. LOL Not me...I lose my appetite and feel a little like I have the flu before a first date.
All you said sounds really good, like you have a rapport and a little history. And I love that you're not letting your DS get involved. If this guys doesn't move back it won't break his heart, and I give you many many pats on the back for that.
So let us know how the story continues...
Candi
Sounds like you "survived" with flying colors.
I would give you a bravo with a "wait and see" flag just ticked on the side. It sounds like you have a lot of things in your favor - with your son and XMIL and things from the past.
But he doesn't live here. So try to hold your heart back a little until he does. This especially means having sex in my opinion. If I was you I would want to wait and see so it doesn't just turn into a long distance fling thing. Give him a reason to move!!
Okay - we will wait and see what the others say. Keep us posted.
This was sure fun to read all of the posts and varying opinions yesterday. I am still laughing at Catherine and her princess first date routine!!
I love first dates because I have so many of them, so the jitters are just gone! Well, ok, it's been a bit of dry spell lately, because I can't seem to get away from these guy buddies that are into me and cramping my style when I meet a sexy guy, but I am about to change that very soon. Just got to set up a girlfriend night so I can scoop some honeys up.
Sara,
I'm so glad you had a great time. It sounds like fun.
I have to agree with West on the wait and see thing. I would, if I were, hold out on the sex until he moves closer. Living in close proximity to a dating partner is a must. The more frequently you can see a partner, the easier it is to establish and maintain emotional intimacy.
I have one concern about his job situation. He's spending 10 days in your area and will be back in 2 weeks. How long will he be back the second time? What kind of job does he have?
Tricia
some times he works at ski resorts in the winter time but this year he took a vacation to come down to see his folks.
i guess his passion is taking pictures cause he talked about being out in arizona for a almost a year building photo studios and film developing labs.
i'm not sure how long he could be back for next month. i'm a single mom with out a lot of time myself....so maybe, to keep things moving nice a slow, he should be from out of town. who knows????
"Who knows" is the key phrase.
SO - if you are a single mom with lots of time, KEEP dating and don't get tied to one. I would not grant him sex or exclusivity until he is near you on a more permanent basis. But that is just me. I know I must have someone who lives close by and who is available on a regular basis for building a good relationship.
Whatever you decide for you, good luck!! Congrats again on the 2nd date. And thanks for sharing your story - it was really fun to read all the posts and share with you yesterday.
Sara,
You're going to think me and West are the peanut gallery. I agree with her again. Have fun getting to know this guy, but keep your options open. If you meet a nice guy in your town, that would be even better than the LDR thing.
The guy I'm dating now lives 7 minutes from me. It's great because we can see each other on the fly.
Tricia