MM finally spilled his guts to me...

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MM finally spilled his guts to me...
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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 8:01am

so i'm not going to overthink... but thought i'd update you all on how the friend zone was going. I kinda feel bad for MM... like i said, i think he really does like me... he sent me an email yesterday hoping he didn't make things weird, etc. We exchanged a few. I

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Tue, 10-21-2008 - 9:47am

Well at least now you know and dont have to rack your brains trying to figure it out. But what two different directions are you two going in? I feel for him because he will never know where a relationship is going until he lets himself in one. In other words... you cant know where its going until you are there.

I am happy for you because at least now you know. RG left me in the dark for over a year and a half and it wasnt until I forced him to talk that I found out. Trust me. In the dark is not a good place to be.

Keep your chin up.

Laurie

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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 10:02am

I gotta say, for a guy, he is SO full of drama & excuses - I'd be totally turned off by it

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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 10:41am

I agree with Rebecca.. He is DRAMA..I am already turned off.. If he wants he should do something.It is clear that he really doenst want.. Common having kids is not that big of a deal if he REALLYYY wanted.


Also LOONYYYYY.. why do you even reply back to such emails.. I though you are gonna let him sit there and wonder !!!


He can play drama for long and then see omeone and totally be switched off from you.. The ball is in his court.. or you let him have it..


Why cant it be in your court. YOU DECIDE that he is not the one an dmove on.


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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 11:05am

I agree with the others- quit talking with him. He's made himself LOUD & CLEAR that you're not "dateable" don't continue trying to make friends out of a crush situation.

"I pointed out his Capricorn nature to be cautious about entering a relationship until knowing where it's headed." Hate to burst the bubble- but he already made up his mind. Capricorns have no problem making a decision and WILL get their goals done- just they are slow to tackle the goal. Remember how long it took him to ask you out? It wasn't that he was trying to figure out if he liked you, he DID. He just took his time asking you out, THAT is his nature. But then he decided that the children were a deal breaker.

Loony, trust me when I tell you that having a man leave you because of your children is THE most painful thing in the world.

The boy

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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 1:07pm
Ugh, Looney. I agree with the others - this guy is a frickin Drama Llama and you don't need that. Hang out with your meet up group still but put some distance between you and him.


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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 1:11pm

I don't see him as a "Drama LLama" (love that, btw!)... I see that he's interested in Loony, but won't pursue because of the kids.


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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 1:19pm
That's all fine and well for him, but Looney doesn't need that kind of waffling from a guy. Either he wants her and he's going to go for it or he's not. It's kind of like that parking space in your heart analogy except he's just idling his car in the street at the foot of the drive, kwim?


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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 4:24pm

Darling...repeat the mantra of HJNTIY. You deserve better than someone who has excuses why he can't be with you. Open invitation to watch TV? I have that with my Grandma. You need someone who will watch your back.

My mom married my step dad when he was 23 and she had two kids. He raised my brother and I like his own. Not all men are afraid of kids. If he wants you, he gets a package deal.

Don't settle.

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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 6:11pm

Life doesnt have to be so complicated. Christ - if you like someone & are thinking about her & blogging about her, stop whining, MAN UP & freaking date her. Otherwise, leave her alone.


I completely agree!!


however, i do think we can have a lasting friendship. we have so many similar interests that even though he doens't want to date me, doesn't make him a bad guy. in this case, i think friendship is possible. and yes, even if he started dating someone else, i'd be okay.

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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 6:15pm

let him sit there and wonder


i thought i was gonna do that but i decided that would be mean. instead i'm going to be genuine. a real friend... like i said, if i've gained a friend, then i've gained something... i'm looking at the glass half full.

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