Mom, The Bully & The Prince...

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Mom, The Bully & The Prince...
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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 10:35am

So here are a few updates and how my days havent gotten any shorter and sleep is still not in the equation:



  • Mom - Well seems shes been "blowing sunshine" up my skirt for a week now. She is scheduled for a heart catheterization today and will not be leaving the hospital for the next few days at least. She was caught in the act of lying to me yesterday while visiting her with more unmentionables. She had just gotten done telling me her dr. cleared her heart and its just a lung infection and they are keeping her to kick this nasty bug once and for all and 'ring ring' the scheduling department calls to let her know what time her procedure will be. HELLO???? Houston we have a major problem here!!!!! So i will be leaving work early today for that. Shes like a kid whos just been caught in a BIG LIE...and shes petrified but will not admit it. To those in the medical field ...please do not give me any info on it. I prefer to think of it as a test like an x-ray. If i have to much info and know any risks involved before hand she will see my anxiety and it may make it worse for all parties...FYI - I didnt sleep a wink last night as it is

  • The prince - our date was cancelled last minute when the bully called friday at 4:00 to tell me he couldnt take DD this weekend because he had to work and are you ready...was being really nice. ok WTF??? will get to that in a minute. So the Prince and I took my DD to see the Easter Bunny on Saturday and it was a nice time...weird but nice. He was very quiet and I had to put it out there. i wanted him to see my life now and be sure this was something he could handle. Please dont over analyze and say I shouldnt have let her meet him so soon...it was an afternoon with the easter bunny not with the prince. She enjoyed his very quiet company. We went to lunch after wards...my treat so it wasnt a date date. We were just friends spending the afternoon catching up. We spoke last night and he said it was strange seeing me and thats why he was so quiet. I said you know i didnt thrust it upon you so try to jam anything down your throat I just wanted you to know what my life is now and know that i dont think for myself anymore, I think for my DD and for me getting involved with ANYONE is going to have to be healthy and stable for her. Im not interested in having people come and go in her life. He completely agreed and he asked if he could take me to lunch later this week...so I will keep you all posted.

  • The Bully - Well the bully has fallen! I found out why he was being so nice..seems he and the GF are no longer an item. Seems she was pushing to get married by NEXT MONTH because her visa is up. He told her he was with me for 5 years and had a child with me and he didnt even marry me why would he marry her. He also went to the emergency room thursday because he was having a nervous breakdown. I asked how she had

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:40am

Well well well Little Star...what a difference a weekend makes!


Firstly - let me say that you and your Mom are both in my thoughts.

Rosecolouredspecs
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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:41pm

Holy cats, girl.

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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 1:02pm
There goes the karma bus!
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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 1:05pm

Glad to hear that CP is getting his just desserts--love to hear that I woman was using him for a green card--that is fabulous!


I am sure the Prince was quiet because he hasn't seen you in awhile and because he hasn't seen the mom in you--I know my personality is very different from my pre-kid life--well of course, I grew up a lot!


My thoughts are with you and your Mom--I am sure everything will work out okay!

April

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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 4:09pm

Wow mom_little_star - you are still working hard on a lot of things. I am sorry about your mom but I don't blame her for being scared. I hope everything will be okay.

I think the prince sounds good so far - keep us posted on the lunch. You did good to let him see the real you but make it a day about the Easter bunny for your DD - and I do know that you have known him a long time.

And the bully - now is the time to really establish boundaries. Do not let him guilt you into doing anything different or anything you don't like. Put yourself first and you will be ok.

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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 4:16pm

Hugs and prayers for your mom- I have her in my thoughts.


I was sooo looking forward to your Prince date update! Well the outing with DD sounded nice anyway! I would not judge you or worry about this one outing with DD. She's really young and one day out with him is fine- especially since I assume there was no hand holding, kissing, affection type stuff. Dinner out together without your DD will be good- to talk to him while not having to be focused on DD. I know for me, whenever DD is with BE and I..I tend to focus most my energy on her as she is 10 and needs that. He understands completely and that is why we need out alone time- to connect as adults. I'm looking forward to your alone date update!


As for the Bully- yep, he got his. Karma is a B*itch, isn't it? I don't like sounding negative but what goes around comes around. I say that withthe risk of sounding like Justin Timberlake but the guy knew what he was singin about. And he called you wanting to talk? LOLOLOLOLOL!!!! Some nerve! Yes he should talk, to

~Pacific~
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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 5:59pm

I just noticed that the Karma bus hit dude about 5

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 9:09am

Well Mom came through fine. She doesnt have any blockages or clots but was having minor (never really heard of this) congestive heart failure but it can be controlled with diet, meds and exercise...two things she HATES most LOL but i snapped at her and said well we can do this all over again in 6 months if you like because it was a hoot for me! Hopefully shes coming home today after 6 days in the hospital...can i just say she really needs a shower and NO im not going to assist. I draw the line somewhere you know...


On the bully...my best friend said to me "i know you and I know what you are thinking and let me say get it out of your head. he made his bed, he laid down with dogs now he has to pay the price and stand up and be a man" And honestly I started feeling bad for him for about a 1/2 hour then i snapped out of it. My mom is soooo terribly worried i will go back. I had to reassure her that the 6 week blood tests for any std/hiv/aids, providing a stable environment for dd, having money in my bank account and still being able to pay bills, and looking better than i have in years are just a FEW of the reasons why i will NEVER go back. Neither DD or myself deserves his crap.


I will keep you all posted on the prince. (just an FYI on the day date with DD...we didnt even hold hands however DD held his ;0) she liked him very much...sort of like a new puppy LOL I dont think he really knew what to make of it but it is what it is)


So thank you for all the prayers and positive thoughts!!!!!!! Thank you Thank you Thank you!


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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 9:14am

WOW! Thats a LOT of STUFF!

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 9:18am

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