Mom, The Bully & The Prince...

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Mom, The Bully & The Prince...
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Mon, 03-17-2008 - 10:35am

So here are a few updates and how my days havent gotten any shorter and sleep is still not in the equation:



  • Mom - Well seems shes been "blowing sunshine" up my skirt for a week now. She is scheduled for a heart catheterization today and will not be leaving the hospital for the next few days at least. She was caught in the act of lying to me yesterday while visiting her with more unmentionables. She had just gotten done telling me her dr. cleared her heart and its just a lung infection and they are keeping her to kick this nasty bug once and for all and 'ring ring' the scheduling department calls to let her know what time her procedure will be. HELLO???? Houston we have a major problem here!!!!! So i will be leaving work early today for that. Shes like a kid whos just been caught in a BIG LIE...and shes petrified but will not admit it. To those in the medical field ...please do not give me any info on it. I prefer to think of it as a test like an x-ray. If i have to much info and know any risks involved before hand she will see my anxiety and it may make it worse for all parties...FYI - I didnt sleep a wink last night as it is

  • The prince - our date was cancelled last minute when the bully called friday at 4:00 to tell me he couldnt take DD this weekend because he had to work and are you ready...was being really nice. ok WTF??? will get to that in a minute. So the Prince and I took my DD to see the Easter Bunny on Saturday and it was a nice time...weird but nice. He was very quiet and I had to put it out there. i wanted him to see my life now and be sure this was something he could handle. Please dont over analyze and say I shouldnt have let her meet him so soon...it was an afternoon with the easter bunny not with the prince. She enjoyed his very quiet company. We went to lunch after wards...my treat so it wasnt a date date. We were just friends spending the afternoon catching up. We spoke last night and he said it was strange seeing me and thats why he was so quiet. I said you know i didnt thrust it upon you so try to jam anything down your throat I just wanted you to know what my life is now and know that i dont think for myself anymore, I think for my DD and for me getting involved with ANYONE is going to have to be healthy and stable for her. Im not interested in having people come and go in her life. He completely agreed and he asked if he could take me to lunch later this week...so I will keep you all posted.

  • The Bully - Well the bully has fallen! I found out why he was being so nice..seems he and the GF are no longer an item. Seems she was pushing to get married by NEXT MONTH because her visa is up. He told her he was with me for 5 years and had a child with me and he didnt even marry me why would he marry her. He also went to the emergency room thursday because he was having a nervous breakdown. I asked how she had
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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 9:47am

Thanks for the med info. See the worst part of it shes only 58 and seriously overweight. But the Dr. said with the lasics (sp) and losing 50 lbs and managing meds and diet she can control it. It was a huge relief for me. It was pretty funny though because of her wieght they put in a foley and she was absolutely PISSED OFF. I head her yelling to get it out so when they came out to talk to me I said listen if you dont want her fighting with all the poor nurses or worse pulling the damn thing out then you need to sedate her. he laughed and i said it again and he looked at me and said fair enough ill call in percocet. I thanked him!!!! Actually I wanted to run over and hug him, she can be quite difficult at times LOL


OK the prince and I lived together for a total of 5 years and dated on and off for 8. So thats why I really wanted him to see my life now and really know where my head and heart are and need to be. He says hes completely ok with all of it and down for seeing where we can take it and in it for the long haul. We'll see though. I didnt have any sparks to speak of. You know no butterflies but i think its because it was a kid friendly outing and my energy was not focused on grown up stuff...honestly its been so long now i dont think i remember what grown up stuff is...LOL If theres a smutty scene on tv or in a movie i find myseld bored...how terrible is that??? I think im broken LOL

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 10:09am

Ooooooooh! I didnt realize the history with The Prince. Thats cool!


& for those dried up shriveled up parts? I have the

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 10:21am

OMG I knew I knew by the title and i still had to click on the link AT WORK...ROFLMAO...my very prudish boss would be BESIDE HERSELF if she saw me open that up on my computer LOL


Thanks for the shopping tip!!! ;0)


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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 10:58am

Sooo--how did everything go with your Mom--I was thinking of you guys last night!

April

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 11:04am
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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 11:25am

You know -- I so don't know how I missed this earlier--it so wasn't here, LOL!

April

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 11:26am
So glad to hear your Mom is pulling through - that must be such a relief!
I happen to think it is A ok to feel for your ex a little bit as long as you keep it to yourself. Feeling empathy for other people's pain and suffering is likely just part of who you are and embracing that is healthy. Keeping it to yourself is smart so he cant pounce on it!
Keep us updated on the Prince - I am rooting for you on this one!! Its so sweet your DD held his hand and I think you were smart to expose your "new life and priorities" to him right away. She is young and this way he understands the fact that you can simply pick up where you left off. Dont forget he probably has a ton of things that have happened to him since you were last together too. Yours are just more visible but after that much time, lots has probably changed for both of you and thats only natural...
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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 12:12pm

Yours are just more visible but after that much time, lots has probably changed for both of you and thats only natural...


Dont I know it...LOL Im tellin ya if it comes down to it im gonna get myself some serious duct tape!

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 1:17pm

Glad to hear that your mom is going to be ok....you are too funny re the shower etc.!


Re CP.... I too have had pangs of compassion for my ex when he has been down and begging me for another chance.

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Wed, 03-19-2008 - 8:27am

The pangs of empathy are gone...He hung up on me two times yesterday. I thought it was my phone dropping the call but no it was him being himself. I was trying to make arrangements for him to see DD this week and now thats not going to happen. You know I actually thought there was a glimmer of a chance that he might actually straighten up himself and be a stand up father...boy was I wrong LOL. Just reinforces what i already feel for him...absolute disgust.


On the prince...I invited him to Eater brunch with my dd and mom and he accepted. So ill let you know how that goes. I think we are going to do lunch maybe tomorrow..if I can swing getting out of the office for an hour. Not very easy with my boss. She likes to get her full 45 hours a week out of us..."lunch...youre going to eat?"


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