Mommy Guilt ....

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mommy Guilt ....
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Mon, 11-12-2007 - 10:07pm

Ok, my kid was cranky & overtired tonite, so she said some things Im sure she doesnt MEAN ... lol


Its just SO getting to me that she thinks, or at least SAYS she thinks, I'm not "home enough". Tonite she said, while whining about going to bed "I dont want to fight with you anymore" (her tub turned into a miserable time b/c when i went in she had taken the whole rug/bathmat & was sitting on it, IN the tub ... Errrr! & the floor was flooded ... then she wanted a snack & was cranky & she was late getting to bed ... & then her stupid father called & when i handed her the phone, she said "Hi Dadda" & then she responded to him "I *was* going to call you ...." - the freaking JERK calls her like twice in 2 weeks & berates HER for "not calling him", & the conversation, as usual, was about 20 seconds long,

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: rlch
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 11:31pm

Oh Rebecca, big (((((((((((HUGS))))))))) to you!


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Registered: 09-01-2005
In reply to: rlch
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 11:41pm

Just continue doing as you're doing and in time she'll come around.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: rlch
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 11:41pm

Yeah, I will talk to her about that. But i dont think anything the counselor is going to say will be helpful. Guess what happened ... its KIND OF funny. Her counselor suggested when she is upset with her dad, or ANYthing, she can write in her own PERSONAL journal, her feelings. Averey asked "What if i want to write a bad word in it?" & the counselor said "anything you write in there is YOURS- you can say whatever you feel even if its a bad word".


So ..... that session later addressed Moms & Dads dating as being NORMAL. Ave did NOT leave happy.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: rlch
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 12:04am

Oh LOL!


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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: rlch
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 10:54am
Awww - hugs to both of you - that was a bad night. I think you do as much as you can with working nights and probably part of the stress is that things are so unsettled with her dad. One thought I had was maybe you can do something to have her talk to him when she gets home from school instead of late at night? Late at night is always more upsetting to a little kid. Of course that means exh would have to cooperate.....
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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: rlch
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 11:08am

Ok, here's a laugh for you:


This morning I'm sitting on the couch with my laptop on my lap, Nicolas snuggled up beside me... we just finished breakfast and we're watching a bit of tv before getting ready for our day... The tv cartoon has some silly song on it, and I start head-banging my head to be silly... Nicolas feels my movement, but with his head against my arm, he cannot see my head... so he asks, "are you HUMPING the couch?"


LOL!




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Registered: 09-01-2006
In reply to: rlch
Tue, 11-13-2007 - 3:35pm

ROTFL!!!!!!

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