mommy2caleb - update please!

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mommy2caleb - update please!
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:44am
been wondering about you and your new RCMP?

mom_uk2socal

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 1:31pm

You have ESP! I was just thinking I should probably update ya'll. So it's been 2 weeks now and we've gone out several times, he's been over w/ Tim Horton's coffee several times too. Just getting to know each other, *great* conversation! He's really very easy to be around and I don't feel nervous or jittery around him. Like I'm out to impress. He is very generous with the compliments and every time we get together he tells me how nice I look and always notices the small details LOL The attention is very ego-stimulating for me lol


Last week, at dinner he surprised me with a LaSenza gift certificate. I was stunned and asked what it was for? He said he just really wanted to give me something that was for me to get something *I* wanted. And had nothing to do with kids.

 

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 3:42pm

Oh honey I like how this one is going!


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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 3:47pm

I'm glad things are going well! Great update....


NC sounds very nice and it's good to take things slow. Yes, sex certain can change the dynamic. Were you able to ask him about his sepration and divorce status?


I like that you're keeping the options open to others as well, at least for now. And it's cure that NC asked of you went to exibit alone. Hehe..


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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 4:10pm
There is your update - this sounds like it could be a movie!! LOL!! I am glad to see that you are taking things at your pace and he is sounding very respectful. And good, too, that you are keeping options open and us posted!!
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 5:08pm

oh the CAMO LINGERIE I remember that! Poor West LOL


NC is very sweet and he's so nervous and funny when we get together which is why I think I'm so *not* nervous around him. Feels like I completely hold all the cards lol


As for the divorce status, he & his wife are trying to keep things very amicable and civil for the sake of their 2 kids and its really hard because both of them feel very scrutinized by family members since this will be the ONLY divorce EVER on both sides of the family. So they feel very much under the microscope, and judged as they go through this and sort stuff out. I let him talk about it, he doesn't bring it up unless our conversation touches it or I ask something directly. He's very forecoming with answering anything I ask, but at the same time I don't want to make him uncomfortable and taint our time together hashing about his broken marriage etc.


I used my GC to buy super comfy lounge jammies. I don't wear anything to bed (tmi?) but these lounge jammies are fantastic! I could live in them. I thought that was really sweet to do since we'd only been out a handful of times and its not like it was my birthday. He said it was

 

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 5:13pm
a mistake I made with Mr.RCMP was completely focusing on him, when he wasn't capable to give me or a relationship much time due to his job. Because I wasn't dating, I felt like all I could do was sit around home, missing him and waiting to go out with girlfriends. THIS arrangement is much better. I'm free to date, and have fun and meet people and not close myself off and I'm getting to know him, and there isn't pressure for him either that I'm this demanding female wanting a relationship out of him ASAP when he's just regrouping after a marriage/seperation and divorce proceedings. Mr. RCMP & I still keep in touch. He knows I'm dating and he says he just wants me to be happy, he feels terrible his job impedes us being together but it is what it is and we were able to keep a friends/email relationship for now. But the mistake was mine by closing off all dating prospects right off the bat like that. This is working much better for all involved lol And it was so cute they way he "totally un-slyly" asked about me going solo to the exhibit. Its like too bad man, you don't want a relationship and I was very honest when i said I still planned to date and if I met someone I'd tell him.

 

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 6:24pm

Okay - good - you are holding the reins and keeping the door open. I think we were all so sad for you for your story with MrRCMP - because that was such a good one. I think I got worried that you would repeat yourself with that again since this one is basically in upside down mode with the separated feature going on.

Too bad I donated the camo nightie to charity - otherwise I could send it to you - hehehehe - wouldn't that be funny - the poor thing would probably turn white as a ghost!

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 6:31pm

you donated it to charity??? well. not very charitable of you. LOL!!!


Yes, Mr.RCMP & I still keep in email contact and we're friendly. But I was driving myself bonkers feeling so alone even though I technically had someone. Because he was never around, I was alone. This is better. If life takes us in a direction where we cross paths again and the situation is different, who knows what will happen. But I'm not putting life on hold for "what ifs".

 

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 9:21pm

how funny that pacsun was also thinking about you today.


all sounds great and he sounds great and I like your casual approach - I know if I had taken this approach sooner I would have saved myself a ton of heartache and $$.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:08pm
after MANY MANY interviews and phoning around I finally found a couple sitters here in my condo community that I'm comfortable leaving the kids with... but only after I've put them to bed already. So I'm getting out, which is great LOL But I hate leaving the kids with people. It makes a difference that I've already done the nightly routine and put them to bed tho. I pay the kid $10 an hour to watch tv and eat my food LOL

 

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