More engagement issue.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
More engagement issue.
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Mon, 09-08-2008 - 10:12am

Well I've been having a pretty good time lately.

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Mon, 09-08-2008 - 11:04pm

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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 7:59am

Thank you for the suggestion about the other board.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 1:56pm

((((((Isys......)))))))


Oh I'm sorry about all of this. I know that for some time now, you have struggled with a sort of push and pull with EG. He does things his way, his space, his time table, his kids. And you've talked about how you are on the sidelines waiting to be a priority. He might very well consider you a priority but honestly the way his actions speak it does not seem to be proven.


Its like he sees a needed space between him and his life with you with your kids. You alone- great, but put the idea of the kids in there and he turns the other cheek? What is that about? Is this the real EG? Is he set in his ways to the point of not wanting to get involved with you as a whole..meaning you and your kids, the total package?


It seems like a running theme with EG. His way, his agenda, and you can ride along if you like but no real moving towards you and your genuine needs, which include your kids and your future and blending mutually. I know he loves you and you love him. But I feel your frustration. And it seems that there has to be a better understanding on his part that you are not seperate from your kids. He learns to love them or else he never really loves all of you.


Huge hugs.

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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 2:51pm

I've taken a huge step back from all of this.

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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 4:20pm
I am curious on his response on your statement on him not watching your back.
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 7:58am
He basically said "It is what it is" and if anyone were to have a problem with our moving foward then they would eventually get over it.
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 1:35pm
How are you feeling about things today?

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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 2:42pm

Not bad, pretty good but of course I'm busy.

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