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Move out?
| Fri, 04-25-2008 - 2:08pm |
So most of you know the story. You can imagine we are still not engaged. But I know for a fact that he has ordered the ring. which is coming sometime next week( he told me this, because he was confused about the setting). But then last night I told him that he needs to find out when his sis and family are going for vaccation

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Thanks Alison and everyone else who took time to respond.
I am definitely considering moving back. Fact is both of us dont want to stay apart.
I will try to cool my nerves and stay calm, if I cant then I am going back.
I know for a fact that we will get engaged. But I know May is too soon now. We will probaly think of August. I think it is more of my feminine wedding plan tensions and how I feel when there is not enough time to even go look for a good dress.
I explained to him all this today and he says he didnt think that much.
I know you're overwhelmed and you're sad and you're stressed and he doesn't seem to feel this is as big a deal as you do.
I agree with this a lot. I think you are uncomfortable because you moved in thinking you would be engaged and you do not want to waste time living together and I guess I understand that because I feel the same way.
So, move out and no pressure on him!
More than several times, you have mentioned the cultural differences between you and Biker. Just how different are they? And are they differences that won't just become bigger issues once married? Or once you have children together?
Just curious, as EVERYONE I date has a cultural difference with me (as I've never dated within my own ethnic race)... but I know culture goes beyond skin color/genetics too. I just know the differences become more apparent when they meet my parents and see just how Asian they are. At the same time though- my culture is definitely more American, so it doesn't matter (if it mattered, I wouldn't continue to date them). I'm just curious though- because you mention it often... just how much it really mattered to you (and Biker).
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Hi Shrimpy,
He knows you'll answer yes, and you know he's going to ask.
So.... relax :)
It will happen when you forget about it and are just enjoying your life with him.
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