Moving along the path to couplehood...

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Moving along the path to couplehood...
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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 4:13pm

Hi Ladies!
So I am very happy and excited. Tonight my BF is taking my out to introduce me to his colleagues. In one of our early relatinship talks he said:
"I like to keep my personal life very separate from work, so you know: I am just very private about it. Please don't take it the wrong way if I don't invite you to work events for a while. I have always been like this. There will come a time when we are close enough that it just makes sense to invite you. "

I took this at face value, so it didn't hurt my feelings, I actually appreciated him being direct about it.

So I guess he's comfortable enough with things to cross this personal threshold. He actually invited me to another work function next week, too.

He hasn't met my friends, family or work folks yet. I have meet some of his family and some of his friends. I suppose it is time for some reciprocity. :)

I know it's just a baby step, but he's such a good man and I enjy being with h im so much, it feels like a big deal.




Edited 2/22/2007 4:25 pm ET by ubersilly
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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 5:00pm

That is quite good. I think the slow and deliberate relationships - where you take the time to get to know each other are quite good. I am sure you will have a good time and that he will be proud of you. I bet you get invited to more stuff in the near future too.

Way to go - nice update - we wish you all the best - and come back and report!!

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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 9:34pm

I think it doesn't just feel like a big deal- it IS a big deal, especially since he told you previously that he keeps things private until he's comfortable with it.

That's a very good sign that he's comfortable. I guess you better arrange for him to meet some of "your people" now!

Moody, an early introducer


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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 11:21pm
That sounds GREAT! You will have to let us know how it goes!!!!!!!!!!!
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Fri, 02-23-2007 - 7:10am

Thanks folks!
We had a great time. The people he was closes with already knew quite a bit about me, enough to make conversation quite easy. It was a relaxed casual gathering at a pool hall and people had their hair let down a little bit. I didn't feel judged at all, just welcome. He even offered some PDA in the form of his arm around me some of the time in front of his work folks, So I did feel he was proud of me.

I did a good job of mingling, which is hard for me. I have a bit of a hearing loss so I really have to focus on what people are saying in loud places. He jumped at the chance to introduce me to everyone and kept his eye on me that I was having a good time, had a full glass etc even when we weren't socializing with eachother.

We had to park a little walk away from the bar. My coat wasn't quite warm enough and he picked up on that without me saying anything. He ws holding me from the side so tightly in an effort to shelter me that I could barely walk. It wasn't that cold, it was really kind of cute to have him look out for me that much.

He was very respectful of the time I needed to return for the baby sitter, which I appreciate so much. As you folks know a reliable sitter is worth their weight in gold.

Deliberate... yes. This guy is very much that. Seems he has his own readiness scale and certain milestones are taken one at a time. I like the way this feel because the progress is very tangible when it happens.

Next week I was invited to a function at his work place, so you are right that there is more to come.

Thanks again for your emails. It is nice to have supportive folks to visit with. :)

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Fri, 02-23-2007 - 8:24am
His attentiveness to you is AWESOME! BRAVO!!