Moving a boyfriend in

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Registered: 10-08-2008
Moving a boyfriend in
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Wed, 10-08-2008 - 10:26am
I have been seperated/ divorced for 2 years now. I have been with my current boyfriend for 7 months.

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Registered: 08-21-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 12:45pm

It sounds as if he is not ready to share you with anyone.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:02pm

7 months is kind of soon. Unless your ds has already really attached himself to your bf and they are already bonded. But from the sound of it, your ds is not there yet. And thats OK..he is young and still healing from the divorce. He is still fearful of losing you to someone else. Give him some time and I wouldnt push the issue or make plans just yet.


How does your bf feel? Does he try to bond with your ds yet? How does he feel about your thoughts of living together?

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:21pm
My df and I are getting ready to move in together at the end of this month. The big difference is we have plans to get married (I already have a ring) and we've been together for a little over 2 years. I didn't introduce df to my son until we had been together for 6 months and I was sure he was going to stick around. I think maybe you should ease up a little and give it at least a year before you move your boyfriend in. Is there a reason he needs to move in now?
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Registered: 10-08-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 3:44pm

Ok, to answer some of the questions...... He is not moving in now, we are looking at the first of the year, by then we will be almost a year.

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 4:00pm

I think ne reason for my sons hesitation is his dad, he is having a hard time moving on and excepting that I have, so he does not like the idea of the BF and has sometimes even told my son, to tell me he does not want my BF there, and not to talk to him.

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Registered: 10-08-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 4:15pm
LOL...oh trust me I know my ex is doing more harm than good, unfortunately he is immature like that.
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Wed, 10-08-2008 - 7:22pm

I think having a ring and/or a wedding date is important commitment versus just moving in together. So many women who post on this and other forums tell of living together with the man in no hurry to go the final step of marriage. Women talk about living together for 10 years and counting and keep hanging on hoping for their guy to actually marry them.

I lived with my wife for 3 years and would not live with another again without being married first. Part of the reason is being an example for my children (DD15 and DS19). Even though I would not be surprised if both of them live with their boy/girlfriends sometime along the way.

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Registered: 11-20-2007
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 9:32pm
I agree with you completely Mark. I wouldn't move in with Barry if he didn't have the intention of marriage. I can't understand dating someone for so long and not getting married. If both partners are happy with that then more power to them, but for me it just wouldn't fly.
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Registered: 10-08-2008
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 8:43am
We have every entention of getting married, just right now.
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 10:44am

I think

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