Moving in update and stuff
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| Tue, 09-23-2008 - 2:28pm |
So....
I've finally got everything over there and BE has been good about wanting to make the place feel right for me and DD. The only issue "stuff wise" is that he has his whole life history on the walls, on the shelves, covering every space. Stuff from here and there (no ex pictures or anything like that- just stuff from HIS life before me). He does display our pictures of us together and things we have acquired while being together- but his past is full of stuff he seems to really like having around. I mean everywhere.. every nook and cranny has some THING on it... a shell from some beach he went to 10 years ago, a ceramic armadillo figurine from his traveling in Arizona, plates and souvenirs from places he's been and things he has done...hundreds of these things.
The thing is that I am more of a minimalist and I do have "stuff" but mine is less of sentimental value and more of an aesthetic thing...like a vase, or a piece of artwork that needs some space to be appreciated (and not shoved in some little space between his wall hangings.
Plus my stuff makes me feel at home and so far we have not had space for it. I am drawn to things that are earthy like my candles, my polished stones, an old wood Asian box, my cedar chest. I feel "lost" without having some of my things around me. Is that weird?? I have felt kind of claustrophobic with everything being his.
He has said that he will take down a lot of his trinkets and things. It just has not happened YET. So I sort of put my boxes of MY stuff in the living room to make a point that I am not going to just store them all away.. I need to feel "me" in his place too
Things do progress...he knows how

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I think its so important that you feel at home there that you guys need to start over and make it yours (as in him and you). Take everything down and start all over decorating. After all you two are starting a new life together. Its important to your daughter too. I couldnt live in some one elses home. I have to have a chunk of it be my place. Thats why if I ever move forward with RG or EMT I will insist on getting a new place for us to start out together.
Laurie
What you guys did is actually my dream! That's exactly what I hoped for. But for BE he has so many reasons we have not done this. First thing is he says he needs space/storage. to put all those "man treasures". BE has a hard time getting rid of things. So his garage is pretty full already. When he does make space I really show my appreciation because I
PP and I agreed we both have stuff we do not want in the room on a daily basis but do not want to get rid of as well. We agreed once we empty out his other house, we will get a small storage space.
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