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Ms Anti-dating update
| Wed, 04-30-2008 - 1:40am |
and we just kinda fell into it - excuse the pun - totally unintentional - honest!
For those who don't know my background, 13.5b, 16.75b and 10.75g.

Hi mom_uk, Jeez, I could have written most of that post having been there too. So you got a friend here. I too have two kids at home (DD's) and their dad is non existent except for child support and twice yearly visits. I also let myself get taken advantage of big time in my last relationship. I was living with an electrical engineer. He earned $60 an hour. Twice what I earned. But he was always broke since he let himself get screwed in his divorce. So I paid for nearly everything until well after I had no feelings left for him. Finally he had to get a job out of state and I was glad to see him go. What a chump I was for that. So now I am working on my self esteem.
Well enough about me. You sound like you are doing the right thing. At least we learn from our mistakes. But I have learned not to judge myself too harshly because I was only doing what I thought was right based on my knowledge at the time.
Be careful about this man who came back into your life. I would hate to see you hurt by someone who comes and goes. Enjoy the cruise with the kids.
Laurie
hi tsunami, it is nice to hear someone else been thru something similar. thanku for ur reply.
Atleast yours left, I had a terrible time getting rid of my leeches lol.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
ps - i meant to ask how old are ur DDs and I dont remember your present dating status?lol
also my oldest even asked "when are you going to get a b/f"? -
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
Hi Mom_uk,
Mine are 17 and 12. I have a 21 year old who owns her own home. I too am waiting until they are older before I enter into another LTR. They have had too many (well just 2 plus their dad) men come and go in their lives. Actually they were only close to one of my bf's. The other they didn't even like.
So for now I just date a few guys but not often. The only problem is that I really like, well ok love, one of them. But he and I discussed the relationship thing months ago and decided to keep it casual for many reasons. And you know that works for me now.
Have fun on the cruise. I thinks its a huge plus that your kids like him and respect him.
Laurie
I have been separated 8 months, divorced for 4 months...on paper.
It's okay to jump...you have wings!
To move forward...you have to stop looking back.
thankyou for your post.
thankyou for your admiration - tho I don't feel it is quite justified - I am only doing what I wished I had known to do 7 yrs ago ago and see I admire people like you who are doing this pre dating.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
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It's okay to jump...you have wings!
To move forward...you have to stop looking back.
For the most part its separate from the kids. He might go to the kids game tomorrow with us. But thats a long shot. He showed up to one of them. I think he is uncomfortable around the kids. He is single never married no kids. He's an odd one to figure out. Very respectful and traditional. I see him at least once a week and talk or chat daily. He does things that make me feel he has deeper feelings for me. Like calls me on his lunch break when he gets only 30 minutes. Its nice to know he is thinking of me and calls when he has little time. I am slowly figuring him out.
Laurie