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| Sat, 04-22-2006 - 9:16pm |
okay everyone, here's my recent date in a nutshell, or a watermelon rine... whatever... ;)
So, my date with T2, who finally called me about 3:00 yesterday afternoon to make sure that I still wanted to go. I told him I did if he did. So we discussed again what movie we should go and see. Finally he said something about Ice Age 2.
I said "Do you want to see that? I would see that. Were you embarrassed to tell me that?"
He said yes, and then we laughed about it.
We decided on Ice Age 2 and then dinner.
I wore my hair down, even though it was still a little frizzy, but not horrible. (I have very long hair) One of the multiple reasons I wear my hair up a lot is because it is naturally wavy, so it doesn't like to lay smooth and silky looking, so that just gets on my nerves. Even thoughI use anti-frizz shamppo and the works. I put enough Secret Weapon in it, to calm it down even more. Better.
Here's my clothing update: I wore dress pants, and my favorite form fitting black silky flowered blouse. It was kinda chilly, so instead of a jacket, I wore a long, lightweight material sweater.
We met at the mall cause that is where our theatre is. We actually saw each other in the parking lot and he waved to me. We, of course, started talking immediately. We never have a lack of conversation.
He was wearing jeans and a blue button up shirt. I would not have picked the shirt for him...or anyone, but he still looked nice. He's kind of a strawberry blonde with a goatee and I just think he should be a green or brown, more earthy type colors, but again, what do most guys care about fashion. He told me later he felt like he should have dressed up more, and I said "no, don't worry about it." and that I used to work in an office, so all of my cold weather clothes are all indoor office buisness type attire. I don't own a pair of jeans. My casual wardrobe is pretty much non-existant, so untill I get that money tree, my wardrobe has to remain as it is.
The movie was cute, we laughed a lot. He did not try anything physical. Which was fine, cause I can't seem to be attracted to this guy romantically at all. But I do like him for a friend, he's lots of fun most of the time. The only thing negative he really did was that he complained about there being commericals at the front of the movies. Yes, I hate it too, but it doesn't cause me the pain and suffering that he seemed to be having. The boy is nice, but I can sense the underlying anger issues the way Yoda can sense the force. There are worse things in life to let tee you off besides Coke trying to make a buck.
Dinner was fine too. There was a funny moment where he was discussing my dinner. We were at Applebee's (yes, that's twice my dates have taken me to Applebee's now.) I had this delicious parmesian shrimp penne... it was gooooood. T2 got a steak and some potatoes and broccoli.
So as I was eating, he said "Wow, that's huge." (remarking about my pasta.)
I said "Yes, and I am seriously going to impress you by eating the enitre thing."
He laughed and said "That would be very impressive, I must admit."
And then, it was like the girly part of me kicked in.
I'll tell you guys, I used to be overweight. And I can eat. I can eat a lot. I most certainly could have eaten the entire thing. I was really hungry. My day time eating usually consists of a slim-fast for breakfast, then a yogurt and rice cake for lunch, and then something indulgent yet healthy for dinner. Plus, I have been walking and rollerblading like crazy now that the weather is decent, so I was THAT kind of hungry.
But at that moment, no way could I have made myself eaten that whole bowl in front of him. It just would have been a disgusting display on my part. So I started nibbling. And then when the waiter came back--who looked VERY much like Joaquin Phoenix(sp) (the guy from Walk the Line and Gladiator--yum.)--I asked him for a box and I packed up my pasta and then I ate it when I got home.
The other funny thing was that a little while after that Mr. Applebee's Manager Guy comes by and asks how our meal is and I tell him it's great. Then he mumbles something neither of us can make out as he rushed off to tend to some Applebee's Emergency or something.
I said "what did he say?"
T2 said "It sounded like a foreign language to me."
I said "I think he said they have a bet going in the kitchen to see if I can eat all this."
T2 almost spurts his water on me. Hee hee. Okay, it wasn't THAT funny, but I think it was just the moment.
We left dinner and he drove me back to my car (which we had left at the mall after much discussion of where we should eat, he volunteered to drive us across the street instead of me following him. Across the street, I say!! I would have just made him get in my car if it hadn't stopped being a big deal as soon as it started.)
Anyway, so we found my car and I got out and thanked him geniunely for a lovely time as always. And he was all strapped into his seat belt and stuff and if he would have walked to me my car, I would have at least given him The Hug, but he didn't. So no hugs for him. And that was it. I told him to give me a call or shoot me and email, but I will actually be surprised if he does, cause he doesn't act very into me--not that I was acting very into him beyond a friend, either. Which is good in a way, cause then I don't have to face up to the fact that I don't feel romantically about him and we didn't part in a bad way and he let me pay for my own dinner, (but not the movie), so I don't have "date guilt" where I feel like the guy did all this nice stuff to impress me and I still don't feel anything, so I end up looking like one of "those girls".
Anyway, the ball is in his court now. I do have fun when I go out with him. We talk constantly and are interested in the same things, but there's just something not clicking with me, and I can't help that. I think it's either there, or it's not.
there ya go everyone!
--snow

I liked reading your story, snow! And I laughed at what you did with the food - I don't like eating in front of a guy either and would have done the same thing.
It sounds like you had a real nice evening. It is okay if you don't feel romantic - you never know - maybe that would happen at a later time - or maybe as you say you will stay friends. It is always nice to have another friend. And you are getting out there! That is the important thing.
Good work!! Keep us posted.
How did you meet this one? I did a search to find out which one he is:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-psdatesingle/?msg=6312.1
Is that the same one?
Snow, your story cracked me up about 15 times! I loved it... because it was so similar to many of my thoughts.... how funny you are!
Anyhow, I think since he let you pay, made no move to get out and walk you to your car, and didn't ask immediately to see you again, his feeling may be on the fence too, which in this case is very good.
One down, 1 1/2 billion or so to go! (My own personal number... no scientific data used here)
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LOL about the food part, too! Snow- sometimes you & I can be SOO alike. I would've been making comments like that as well- about the kitchen staff having bets on whether we will eat all our food or not. ;-)
It's funny that you guys mention not wanting to eat in front of guys on dates. Last night when Hiker and I were at the japanese restaurant, I joked with him about the sushi- and how we had ordered it on our first date together- when he had never tried it before. I said that if he'd tried it back then and didn't like it, I wouldn't get offended that he didn't like something I loved. I would've just said "more for me!!!" and kept on going. LOL
I think it's great though- that I can eat all I want in front of Hiker and he really doesn't care either way. I've SOOO pigged out in front of him. Still eating (and then cleaning my plate) after he was already full. Okay- so that doesn't happen ALL the time, but it has happened and it didn't seem to even phase him. Most of the time though- he does eat more than I do. ;-)
I think I've always been more of a "more for me!" type of girl while eating out though. Sad, huh?? lol
~shrimpy, SO very WYSIWYG
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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LOL Snow!
What an awesome narrative of your date, you're a riot!
Judy: Yes, he is the same anger ball guy. I was trying to be nice and give him a second chance (and get out of the house if nothing more!) but again, I just don’t feel any magic, and that anger issue is one of the main reasons that I just don’t trust him enough to want to be anything more than friends. Which is basically why if I never hear from him again, who cares. And if I do, that's fine too.
“One down, 1 1/2 billion or so to go! (My own personal number... no scientific data used here)”
That was ROFL funny! I love that! And you’re right, Moody, I think that since I wasn’t giving off any signals (my guybestfriend said that smart guys CAN tell when you are not into them), that he was being very respectful of my space.
Shrimpy: I thought of you too, cause we almost went to a sushi place and I told him I didn’t like sushi, but I didn’t care if we went, cause usually where there is sushi, there is calamari and I DO like that!! Yum!! Well, after I said that, he said “Let’s just go to Applebee’s.” Maybe sushi is a “serious relationship” starter food? LOL!!
More on the food: I was also bummed because when I go out to eat, (since I hardly ever do), I wanted to get some dessert, but after that food comment, I couldn’t!! I just had to sit there staring at the picture of the triple chocolate whatever it was and settle for my stash of dark chocolate at home. Sigh.
And yes, Alison, you're right...no spark...so to quote Judy: NEXT!
I’m still feeling out things with the guys at school and we actually have a picnic this Friday for the IT program students, which I am debating whether I am going to or not. I don’t want to go “alone”, but I want to make sure SOMEONE I know is going, but I am so scared I will sound like a geeky moron asking the guys I do talk to regularly if they are going to the IT picnic. Around here, hardly anyone has classes on Fridays, so I'm sure most people usually work those days or do an outside school thing. I am trying to get brave enough to say something to someone--anyone--about it! I might ask “the other girl” (aka Petite Girl) and see if she is going, then I won’t look so “desperate” asking her, as opposed to the guys. Honestly, I don't think any of them would think anything of it if I asked them if they were going anyway, but it’s not keeping me from being neurotic about it!
I'm so glad I could make you guys laugh, too. See, this dating thing IS supposed to be fun! :)
--snow
"I’m still feeling out things with the guys at school and we actually have a picnic this Friday for the IT program students, which I am debating whether I am going to or not. I don’t want to go “alone”, but I want to make sure SOMEONE I know is going, but I am so scared I will sound like a geeky moron asking the guys I do talk to regularly if they are going to the IT picnic. Around here, hardly anyone has classes on Fridays, so I'm sure most people usually work those days or do an outside school thing. I am trying to get brave enough to say something to someone--anyone--about it! I might ask “the other girl” (aka Petite Girl) and see if she is going, then I won’t look so “desperate” asking her, as opposed to the guys. Honestly, I don't think any of them would think anything of it if I asked them if they were going anyway, but it’s not keeping me from being neurotic about it!"
Snow... you are so ME sometimes....
I think you should ask Petite Girl directly if she'd want to go with you. And then be sure to bring up the picnic to the guys- and mention that you're thinking of going. But don't ask them to go with you. Just let them know that you'll be there and thinking it will be fun. And then later you can see if any of them show up. But don't start this train of events unless you're SURE you're going, whether Petite Girl goes with you or not!
I guess I am the only one who doesn't care to eat all kinds of food on a date, huh?!?? yikes! Am I missing some kind of secret unknown 'girl rule' or something??
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I did eat dessert with HBS on our Applebee's date. We actually shared it, which was way cool!! I like sharing food with guys though. I also didn't feel uncomfortable eating in front of HBS at all.
I think T2's comment just had me feeling like a pig or something! I don't like letting a guy have that kind of influence over me...like I was doing something "wrong" in his eyes, and that made me really uncomfortable as well.
And just fyi, T2 has not called or emailed... but we don't talk a whole lot anyway, so who knows. :)
--snow
Shrimpy- I don't know about any kind of "girl rule"- I just know I HATE to eat in front of people, guys, girls, whomever, unless I'm completely comfortable with them, and quantity doesn't matter. I get all nervous and jerky about it- probably because I was SUCH a klutzy child and could never eat anything without making a mess.
I guess it carried over, now I'm so afraid of making a mess, I'm always too nervous to eat around people, no matter what it is, I just can't do it. I literally get sick sometimes... I hate dinner dates!
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