My dating update and first call
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| Wed, 04-19-2006 - 5:24pm |
Okay gals (and lurking guys) - your very own CL has finally ventured out of her so safe home office after 3 years of no dating and just liking someone.
I went through a popular dating site and almost shut off my profile for the umpteenth time because I am SO SICK of the ones that don't appeal and the wierd emails and all of that stuff. Anyone who has tried OLD knows exactly what I mean. I have had a lot of OLD experience because I went forth with full gusto for a year or two and then got sick of it. So at least I know how to screen 'em.
Anyway, I said there just has to be at least 3 mutual matches that appeal to me - so I went through page after page after page and found 3 to wink at. The first 2 I deleted because of inappropriate/wierd responses that just didn't jive with me. I think I mentioned those here.
But one of them wrote a nice note so I replied. Then he wrote a lot of long notes. And all of his notes, along with his profile, could have been written by me.
We both want to go slow and approach this like we have found an activity partner. He is a single dad so he has a few kids in the mix. And I am busy with a full life so it is not like I want to give up my things. So this is good.
Anyway, he called today and I got to talk to him on the phone. We got along nicely and fel t comfortable with each other and that is good. Then he sent me a note.
I might have to wait just a bit to meet him because his exw is going out of town and he has to watch the kids and then he has a trip out of town himself. But he has already asked to meet the 2nd week of May and I said yes. I am sure the time will go by fast and it is really okay to wait a bit given my schedule.
He emailed after the call to say I piqued his interest and he even asked me more questions about me.
So this is a start. I will keep you guys posted as we proceed.

yay! A start is better than giving up, and even if nothing comes from this meeting, you've met another person.
That's how I've been looking at all dating lately- no matter how I met the guy. I have met someone new, and even if it turns out that he's not for me, I couldn't have known that without meeting him.
All the best, and keep us posted!
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So far so good!
Awesome Judy!!
Keep us all posted!
WOO HOO! You know, thats how things got started with my boyfriend. I winked at him! He still teases me about that! Just like you, I have had some really bad experiences with dating. Both OL and IRL. I was just about to give up and tired of everything that goes along with dating.
Thank goodness my friend talked me into trying one more month on match. So, you just never know. Things sound very good for you and I can't wait to hear how things go!
Stephanie
Well, after looking good at first, EE has to get bumped.
A note indicated that 2 of his kids are problem kids. I just can't mix that with mine and realize that my lifestyle is not really cut out for that sort of thing either.
So, sorry to all. The details and story stop here.
But, I am getting out there - will work real hard to have another for y'all!!
Judy,
With EE...does he have like juvy type-problem kids? Is that what you meant? I agree, if you don't want to deal with that, then don't. You know it won't fit into your life. It would be different if you "had to", but since you don't, I support your right to be picky. After all, if you are looking for something serious eventually, you want the majority of the pieces to fit nicely together. And you are much too busy to play watch dog to kids that are doing drugs and stealing stop signs and worse. The financial and legal liability alone would be a hassle in itself and the stress and worry...eessh... For a guy I loved, I would be able to handle it and I would try my hardest, but for a guy I was just maybe thinking about dating, it would stop me too.
At least he was up front with you about it right away. That was very fair of him. What a bummer in a way, though. Why is there always SOMETHING BIG that can't be over looked. It's like it can't ever be something small, like "I can't stand stuff on my kitchen counters." (LOL!!) Now THAT is something workable!
wishing you more luck!
--snow, (who if you guys didn't know, I AM weird about stuff on my kitchen counters :P )