My Divorce Decree....
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My Divorce Decree....
| Mon, 02-06-2006 - 9:55pm |
Well...I finally received a letter from my lawyer telling me that my divorce decree is in his office. However, he will not give it to me. He has came up with bogus charges that he says that I owe him. I'm getting all of my checks that I made out to him in order and so is my mother and grandmother. He says that I still owe him $1375 in addition to the $3000 that I've already paid him. The bill he sent me has charges on them that I know were paid and he's saying that they haven't been. He's so crooked!
I'm going to the court house Friday and asking for a copy of the decree from them. Maybe I can get it that way. Who knows...but at least it's been sent for crying out loud. It would've been a year next month....
Kait

Kait,
I'm glad it's finally in, but what a jerk your lawyer is being!
Your lawyer is a creep. I agree with you and the others that you should see if you can get a copy of it through the court.
I bet that if you go in there with the receipts you will get it straightened out. Maybe he will allow a payment plan?
At any rate, thank goodness it is DONE!! Did you get anywhere with the visitation issue and your exh's incompetency?
Keep us posted. We always enjoy your updates and details!!
How is school going? Do you have much longer until you are done?
Hopefully this time next week we'll have all of the receipts in order to prove that everything has been paid in full. I am going to go to the court house tomorrow though...maybe (keep your fingers crossed) they'll give me a copy. If I get a copy before Thursday then dd doesn't have to go on the overnight on Thursday. In fact, once I have a copy in my hand, the temp visitation order is null and void. My exh will get dd every other weekend.
Ex has been really weird lately. I think he's up to something, but I just can't seem to be able to put my finger on it. He's been calling me, asking about dd, being the one to pick her up and drop her off instead of his dad and step-mom, etc. He also asked to come over to see if he still had some stuff over here. I put a stop to that though. I told him that he didn't have a single thing in my house that belonged to him and that he wasn't not going to come over. After that he became cold towards me again. He's probably just trying to be nice considering it's tax time. He's probably going to try and claim dd on his taxes or something and trying to slide it behind my back. Who knows. Whatever the case, I'm not going to be smooth talked by him by any means.
As for the one night a week visitation thing...like I said, it will no longer be in effect once the decree is handed out. However, I feel a little guilty about it right now. I'm used to the fact that dd goes once a week and every other weekend. It works out that every other week she goes for 3 nights. I was thinking about trying to work something out with him. Tell him that even though it's not set up in the new visitation order that we could work something out if he did actually want to have her during the week some times. But...that may be opening a can of worms. Part of me says to continue doing it and another part of me says...just stick with the signed documentation. I'm just so sick of all the immaturity on his behalf. I want dd to be able to have two parents that can at least get along with one another, if not for anything but her sake. More than likely though, I'll just stick with what the judge ordered. God knows that if the tables were turned he wouldn't bend over backwards for me.
School is going fine. I was furious last night though. I did a clinical Saturday in the ER. A man that I came in close contact with turned out to have bacterial meningitis. Everyone that worked in the ER Saturday got a big round of antibiotics except me and the guy that was doing clinicals with me. I was so upset. I called my doctor as soon as I was told about what the man had. My doctor told me that more than likely I wouldn't develop anything considering that I'm not experiencing any symptoms. However, I could still be a carrier. So, now I'm on a huge bout of antibiotics. I feel like I should file a complaint with someone considering that we (my classmate and I) were not offered the antibiotics like everyone else. Even people who didn't come in contact with the man were given the medicine! It was very upsetting to me, especially since I have a 2 year old that I could've passed it on too...you know?!
Anyways....school will be over in April and I'll be an EMT in May! Wish me luck!
Kait
That is amazing that you only have a few more months to go!
Kait,
I think you've learned a very valuable lesson here in that you need to ensure you keep good records.
Hey Kait,
Sorry about the mess with the divorce decree, but I am really happy you finally got the divorce finalized. Congrats! As for the visitation rights, I don't have much advice on that. I would of loved for my X's to have more time with their fathers, but that just wasn't the case. I had to force them to see their children. Sad, very sad. Now I just don't bother and the girls don't care.
If its been working so far and your happy with how it was, then just keep what you were doing; You can always change it later to make it stick. Right now just watch and see.