My Last Weekend of Freedom for 10 months

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My Last Weekend of Freedom for 10 months
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 1:27am

I was sure that my summer would have been filled with going out, dating, never coming home and just being crazy. I had planned that my last weekend would be a HUGE blowout!!! Hmmm..... instead, I'm home. I have been home for weeks or staying at a friends at the beach twice this summer. But otherwise, even then just wanting to relax. No clubs or much nightlife; just Home Depot. So the reality of my two months of freedom, is that I almost never went out. Only stayed home. Not sure what to think. I had 62 days of freedom and used maybe 10 to do something.

On one hand I'm glad I have, because I've been so exhausted with my job, not feeling well and doing stuff around the house, but on the other hand, I worry that when the girls get back, I'll be itching to go out after a few weeks, because I haven't been anywhere all summer.

I'm hoping once the house is in perfect order, I can invite friends over to just hang out with the girls and myself and that I don't become balistic after two weeks of them being home and them driving me crazy again.

Last year, it was the same thing and a week after they returned I wished they were on vacation again. The bickering, fighting and not listening drove insane. The all or nothing is draining. All I have work and the house, but next week, another class starts for me again, my 14 hour the day job, no sleep, the girls and then the girls have loads of appointments before school starts again for them. AND THEN!!! Homework, back to school paperwork and getting them to keep this place clean. UGGH!!!!!!!!!

Send me prayers and well wishes! LOL.

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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 9:02am

Aye! Motherhood!

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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 9:07am
Awwww honey I know that feeling, I get a few days or even a week sometimes without any kids and I just feel like I waste the time, lol.
 
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 11:00am
Same here.
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 12:45pm

Sending prayers, well wishes and a bit of advice.

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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 10:22pm
Hey Lernin, I do know what you're saying.
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 10:54pm
Yes, I totally agree! My oldest is starting High School this year and I can't seem to get it out of my head that I just held her in my arms the moment she was born. I remember it so well. The youngest will be 8 this year and I just don't know where the time flew. I remember and cherish it and I won't change it for the world, but having them 24/7 (no backup)just gets difficult at times. I have to play Mom and Dad and sometimes it just rough. LOL. ON days when I just am so over it, I allow them to do just whatever, because trying to stay consistent wears me out. I'm hoping this year will be much better. LOL. Again, I know the time goes by and in a few years, I'll wish it allll back, but some days, it's hard to remind myself of that.
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 10:57pm
yeah my ds14 starts high school this year.
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 11:08pm
Can you believe with all my stress, I still toy with the idea of another one day. LOL It would be difficult, but maybe one day I'll decide to foster.
Children, no matter what, are just a gift.
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 11:59pm
Yikes, I don't want more.
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Sun, 08-10-2008 - 6:29am

It sounds like you could use help during the school year. Do you have a family member or trusted friend near you to take the kids every now and then? Or even hire a neighborhood teen to watch them. How old are they? Are they still in the babysitting age or can they be left alone yet?

I have my kids year round and full time as their dad is not part of their lives. So I know how important it is to get away and spend time with yourself. It keeps you from going crazy. You need those breaks. The kids need it too. If youre in a better mood then youre more effective at raising them.

Laurie

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