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My Latest Updates
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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 10:52pm

I seem to lurk and read alot, and post to others too... but not really share too much of what I am up to except in long updates, huh?? I guess it's time for another update.

Things with Hiker are super. We haven't had as much time to see each other or go on long dates lately, but we do at least have some stay-in evenings here and there, or an afternoon date for a quick movie and late lunch or something. It's just been crazy with all the stuff going on with my Mom (more on her in a bit). So date-wise, our time hasn't had too much to gush about. But I am truly gushing on the inside about him because he is just plain GREAT.

So anyway, I feel bad that I was sort of cheating Hiker on some quality time because I was so NOT FOCUSED on him lately and even when I talk to him on the phone for our check-ins... I feel like I'm not really even putting too much attention onto him, but just talking so I can feel a bit better by sharing my day. But he tells me that it's okay. He hasn't felt ignored or cheated and besides, he says he understands that I have had alot going on lately. Between having sick kids and a declining Mom... it's been pretty nutty. But in the middle of it all, Hiker has been a bright spot where I can go to just relax and not think about taking care of this or that, but to just enjoy BEING. And to just grab a hold of life the full way life should be. He has been a total Godsend. I love it that he has NOT gotten whiny about how little attention he has been getting. But if I was wanting to give him attention, he is more than ready to make time for it and is there. He is SO very there for me, and not demanding during those times when I just can't see straight to think clearly.

I am SOO keeping Hiker. As long as he lets me, I will keep him and love every day of it. And it's cool to see that he isn't going anywhere either. :-) So things with us are quiet, but at the same time, still on fire and burning strong.

About Mom... well, her last days are on our doorstep. We spent the last week with some tough times when it came to caring for her- because she will tell Dad to leave her alone and then he will call me to come over and see if I can help matters any. It's been a very stressful week to say the least... and then we decided that it really was time to sign her up for hospice services. And they're quick. Now we're armed with a new arsenal of pain meds and make-her-comfortable meds. And hopefully we CAN make her last days as comfortable as can be.

I've learned alot about how Mom & Dad's relationship is like (still learning about them even after all these years of being their child) and learning more about Dad himself, too. I've learned too- that our family has some good strong bonds and I know we can make it through if we just keep helping each other and leaning on each other. Mom & Dad have been married nearly 50 yrs (Dec 2007 will be their 50th anniversary, but I don't see how Mom could make it through to that date). But I just tell people they've been married 50 yrs anyway. It's damn close enough.

So it's been some tough times, some VERY emotional times... but I feel good that things WILL be okay. As much as I don't want to lose my Mom... I just don't want her to keep on suffering anymore and I'm ready. For her sake. And I just think that our family and friends are enough to help us all through the tough spots ahead. Somehow, in the middle of all the emotional chaos... there is still some peace.

Oh- and my middle brother is ENGAGED! He met his girlfriend on Match, and they've been dating since the New Year... and now they are engaged. I'm not sure if they've talked about any wedding dates or time frames, but I do hope they will have a fairly long engagement. Just because I think the engagement is coming quickly- and I'm the Queen of Moving Slow now... and I just want things to work out for everyone. But I do think it's cool that they are engaged. :-)

~shrimpy, full of sushi and glowing in Hiker afterburn tonight

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Sun, 05-06-2007 - 11:46pm

Oh Sweetie - SO much going ON in your life!!!!!!!


1st, Hiker ... he loves you & is there for you. Of course he will stand & wait, you need to do so much right now, I am just SO happy for you he IS there. & will BE there for you.


2nd, & most importantly, your Mom. You know i know what it is to not want to lose them, but also to know when its time to let go - for their sake.

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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 12:24am

I'm really sorry to hear about your Mom, Shrimps.

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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 6:17am
Oh Shrimps - I am so sorry to hear about your mom. This must be such a hard time for you. I am glad Hiker is there for you and being so understanding. I guess there is nothing any of us can do except be here to listen and send prayers and positive thoughts. Keep us posted, okay? We have all been so fortunate to have you post with us and it is hard to think that you have to go through this.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 8:17am

Thanks, everyone! I know the kind of support that can come from the boards... and I'm thankful for having this online world to vent to and share with.

R- I totally remember what you went through when you lost your sweet Mom, so I know you have an idea what this craziness is like. I just know this Mother's Day (and all of them for awhile) will be pretty sucky holidays. I am thankful of family though. VERY thankful that we can all be here for Mom.

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 8:29am
I'm here for you too Shrimps.
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 11:45am

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. That must be very difficult. You are in our prayers.

I am glad that Hiker has been so supportive. He sounds like a great guy.

Hugs,
Catherine

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 12:41pm

I am so glad that you have Hiker - especially at this time in your life. He sounds beyond wonderful - definitely a keeper.

Hugs and prayers to you and your family. I know only too well how painful and difficult it is to lose a much loved parent. You are all in my thoughts.

Rose

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