My mom--the matchmaker

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My mom--the matchmaker
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 2:25pm

Does anyone else have those people in their lives that try to set you up at any given moment?

April

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Registered: 01-28-2008
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 2:50pm

I think it is probably easier with your mom cause she has no reservations or self conciousness she is having to feel. I get hit on all the time,not necessarily asked out but hit on..I think sometimes it how you carry yourself,your body language,and attitude.I know with countryboy and everything that has happened lately also as well as other things in the past it may be that they can sense something in you maybe a shyness or hesitance. Maybe they are unsure of how you would react to any advances they made by something you are doing in your subconsious and not even realize it. I know I have had to work on things like that myself so its not just you..if that were the case..Im so not a expert by any means. I have the tendency to shut down and freeze when they are making interest known in me..but the good part is...IM GETTING BETTER AT IT! I have made myself be more approachable to people and even take the initative to speak to men first. Sometimes all it takes is a friendly hello or smile. I talk to alot of people but I dont necessarily go out with alot.I know though regardless I am building myself up to where I am more approachable..good luck to you..hey maybe give the Alltel man a try...it couldnt hurt right?


Have a good day!!!

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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 2:56pm

Umm My mom tried to fix me up with her USED CAR DEALER. Yes you read that right. She bought a used car this year and while they were out test driving it she told him my tale of woe and next thing i know shes out back signing the papers and hes telling me "your mom told me what your going through... you know I live in the town where you work...id love to stop by and take you out for lunch" Not only did she tell him my saga she told him where i worked....ugghhhh mothers!


I feel for ya...believe me!


((((Hugs))))


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Registered: 01-28-2008
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 3:01pm
Oooh I think if it was that bad I would encourage mom
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 5:01pm
I don't know - but maybe she will make the next Bravo show matchmaker and we can all sign up! How fun - keep us posted!!
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 12:36am

I wish my mother was pro-active! Mine wishes I would hold her hand and be a spinster like herself until she dies and then after that, I should continue to tend her burial sight. WHATEVER! And yes, I'm serious, my mother has extremely serious selfish, self absorbed issues regarding the fact that I was brought on this earth to cater her every whim and never be happy, because you can't be happier then holding your mommies hand. She is the type that makes me think of Norman Bates.


Can you tell I talked to my mom today? :( Thank god she lives 2 thousand miles away.

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 8:25am
So we were seperated at birth then???LOL
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 8:32am
YES! I know many other ladies that deal with this situation. 2 thousand miles still doesn't seem far enough. I cared for her for 26 years (I was 8 when my parents divorced) and she sucked the LIFE out of me. Helped ruin my marriage and is life's biggest negative leach on the planet. Those on the board that knew me when I was in Germany, remember how horrible I had it. I have led a MUCH happier life and existence without her here. I don't hate my mom, because I do really love her. BUT she is happiest when I am most miserable and she makes me feel so depressed. Since I took the courage to finally leave (after many threats from her wanting to commit suicide if I did), I finally have a much better positive energy in my life. However, sometimes, like the last two weeks, I feel her creeping up inside me. When I talked to her yesterday, I felt so dark and gloomy. I'm glad I'm going to my new meetup this week, which is a positive energy group. They focus only on making your life positive and thinking positive. It'll be my first this week, so I'm excited about it.
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 8:39am

This sounds like a great group - I hope you share your story and experience and what you learn there with us!!

Sorry to hear your mom gets you so down. It sounds like she is depressed. I was thinking, though, can you imagine her quandry so many years ago where your dad left her, and they did not have groups like this one on the internet or internet dating. That must have been hard on her. I cannot imagine not having all of you guys - it helps me so much to know that others are dealing with the same stuff and to hear their stories and learn their tips.

I think it is better that you live farther away from her and you can just talk a bit here and there. Hopefully your next conversation is better. It sounds like you have been having a disappointing time with dating and then she made you feel worse. HUGS!

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 8:52am

No, I don't tell her about my dating life (are you kidding? LOL). I just get pulled down by her constant "I'm so alone, no one loves me"... B.S.


She is an artist. She thrives to be alone and THEN she puts people down and makes so many negative comments that no one wants to be around her. She does it all to herself. If people try to befriend her, she says she doesn't like people, but then she complains that she doesn't have anyone to talk to. Total viscious cycle. She doesn't make herself very loved. She goes on and on about how miserable her life is etc and putting other people down.

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 8:53am
Oh dear - I think it is the artist thing for sure - they do crave alone time. Sorry you have to go through all of that. And yes, you are much better off HERE!!

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