My Mothers Input

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Registered: 02-12-2008
My Mothers Input
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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 2:10pm

I am recently divorced. I had to move back into my Mother with my DS who is 2. A few months before I divorced my H, I was talking to a male friend of mine. This friend is not the reason for my D. I was already leaving my exH before we were talking. The friend and I have never even hugged if that tells you anything. Just a friend period. This friend and I have gone places together and we have taken my DS with us to a few places. Now that my D is final the friend is talking to me more flirty and about us having a relationship but not anytime soon. Just to remain as friends until I have time to get over my D and figure my life out.


Well last night my friend and I were trying to get my mother to go some where with us and she doesn't want to go which is fine, no pressure. After I get off the phone with my friend she says "you know he's not marriage material" He is set in his ways. I said, nobody is talking about marriage here and yes he is the way he is because he has been divorced/alone for many years. She has to throw in the fact too that he lives with his mother.. Well, yes he does, but I'm living with my Mother, what's the difference, is what I was thinking.


So this friend has been a good friend to me and has been by my side to help me

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 2:23pm

AH.... MOTHERS!


It could be wise to listen or just take it with a grain of salt.


Depends on your relationship with your Mom. Is she alone? Is she a little dependent on you? Does she like you being in her house? If you answer these questions with a yes, she might not what she thinks is best for you, but best for her.


Or...


What exactly points her that he isn't marriage material? What are some of the things that you

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 4:39pm

I think we need input from a lot of places, and it can all be tucked away in the back of your mind until its needed.

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Registered: 02-12-2008
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 4:54pm

myprecioustwo:


Your right, I should have given more information. Here goes:


"Depends on your relationship with your Mom. Is she alone? Is she a little dependent on you? Does she like you being in her house? If you answer these questions with a yes, she might not what she thinks is best for you, but best for her."


Yes, is the answer to all of those questions.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 5:03pm

It helps plenty!

April

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 5:08pm

Just to throw in my 2 cents... My mom is the type that thinks she is the supreme authority on everything.

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 5:11pm

OMG! I wish I could find that post about my mother. I don't know if I should laugh or cry that I have found you! My long lost SISTER, because HONEY, you are LIVING with MY MOTHER!!!!!!


The hermit, depressed, I'm so lonely have no reason to live except now I have you to suck the life out of!