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My My My...
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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 5:07am

Well...I did what everyone said. I decided that no matter how much I missed dd that I would not call ex and check on her. I missed her so much today that I cried. But, tomorrow evening will be here soon enough and she will be back home safe and sound. So, with that in mind, I didn't call ex b/c I wanted him to have to be the responsible, full time parent. I also didn't want him to think that I was sitting home sad about missing dd.

Anyway...I went out - for the first time in forever! A girl friend and I went to some local places and I saw everyone that I graduated high school with (you know, the ones you say you will always keep in touch with, but some never do). So, we had our own little reunion! It was so much fun catching up and just relaxing out with the girls! I danced, talked, and just enjoyed myself. I must admitt that I really enjoyed the attention from the guys - but I left it at that - harmless flirtation. Everyone is right, I am not ready to start dating right now. I need to let the dust settle and get everything in order and start the new routine with the visitation. However, it was fun just the same!

So, I hope everyone else's weekend was great too! But as much fun as I had with my friends, I'm soooooooo looking forward to dd coming home. My granny is going to pick her up for me so I don't have to see ex. I'm so anxious to get her home! So, the time apart was probably good for me and now I am reenergized and ready to be mommy again!

Hugs,
Kait

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: kaitlyn02
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 6:03am

You have really turned the corner on this!! Very good work. I like everything you write - it is good that you had a good time and that you are focused on you and not just dating. It is great that you didn't call your ex and that you realize it is a short while before DD is home. And even better that your grandma will pick her up. Your family has really stepped up to the plate for you and they are to be commended for that.

Good things will come now - keep us posted!!

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Registered: 06-08-2005
In reply to: kaitlyn02
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 2:52pm

Kait,

I can only imagine how difficult not having your dd over the weekend was, but you handled it very well. Congrats. It will get easier as it becomes routine,

Glad to hear you had a great time out with your friends...girls night out is always fun. I know when I have the opportunity to go hang out with the girls and get some adult time, I am a much better parent.

Take Care

Susan

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: kaitlyn02
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 3:04pm

Kait,


I'm glad your weekend is going well.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: kaitlyn02
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 4:25pm

Good points, Alison!! I always say I am glad to have you home and I don't pry. Funny thing is that the stories come out in the days that follow with no prompting. And yes, I always have to "detox" when he comes here. He is usually revved up from candy, late nights, constant attention and activities, not picking stuff up and etc.... but that is all good....just not at this house. Everyone here observes and laughs about the same thing.

Usually if he goes and does something on his own - like play a video game or shoot some hoops he is ready for here - sort of like a transition I guess.

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