My Valentines

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My Valentines
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 7:23pm

Here they are...the two loves of my life.


I couldn't get any pics of the fish...they're shy, lol.


DD and Blue Eyes.. recent pics


~Pacific~
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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:09pm

Thanks, Mark.


You're right about being the way we resolve this- Everyone's going to disagree and argue and hurts are going to come up, it's inevitable. But how we deal with it..that will be seen and hopefully, after work. I'm praying he does not play ghost tonight and leave me sitting alone (without even DD) on V-Day.


(((((hugs))))

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:36pm
Well give me Blue Eyes phone number so I can call him and talk some sense in him...




May your soul be at rest.


May your heart remain open.


May you realize your own true nature.


May you be healed.


May you be a source of healing for the world. - a zen prayer






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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:42pm
Are you sure you don't want to get it out and share with us? You wouldn't ruin our V-day! Maybe we can cheer yours up with a little advice. I might even add silly advice! :) It might make you feel better?
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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:45pm

Sure wish you could.


But you make too much sense

~Pacific~
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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:50pm

Things will always work out--I always worry about relationships when there are no arguments--I know that is stupid but nothing is perfect--there is always something that is going to bother you about someone else, if there are no arguments than it tells me that one (or both) parties don't care enough to argue...disagreements just reinforce your relationship over time!


April

Life

April

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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:51pm
Aww gee Pacific.. such a nice thing to say.
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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:56pm

Thanks, Pac-Sun! Hiker and I won't see each other today, but it's no big deal. It's just a commercialized day, right!?!? He came over for a few minutes last night to drop off his gifts for me. I got some flowers, chocolates and a cute little bitty monkey that has magnetic hands and feet. I have him hanging off my pull-up bar... so I can think of Hiker whenever I'm cussing about having to do pull-ups. LOL But really- the pull-up bars are located in the doorway leading from my main living room to the hallway- so I can see the monkey and think of Hiker each time I walk through there. (as well as when I do pull-ups, too- but that doesn't happen as often as it needs to, lately!) ;-) I gave Hiker all his V-day stuff already on this past Sunday (because I didn't know if I would see him this week).


So anyway-

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:09pm

Hey Pac Sun-


I'm sorry its not so sunny for you today...as you know my week has been hard too. Those sleeping nights with no resolvment to your arguments suck.


Don't feel bad about the day, it's just another day in the calendar. Blue Eyes prob doesn't need a special day to tell you he loves you.


Whatever it is you will work it out!


Here's a


~M.

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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:25pm

Well first things first....Happy Birthday!!!


You are kind to ask about the issue. Instead of writing out a tirade of frustration and upset- I'll try to get to the nitty gritty of the issue at hand.


We both want to move forward in our relationship. We've been together for 15 months which in realty is not actually that long. We have, however, built a strong foundation and we know each others secrets, ambitions and yes, even weaknesses.


He has come a LONG way since out last blow up. He willingly changed by considering my feelings more, partying less, and putting the two of us first. He's actually really taken great strides- more than I expected him to.


But the issue is that we had talked about when to move in together. We are committed to each other and I am not at all chomping at the bit to get married again, not yet. I love being committed to him, but marriage is something different. I guess that I have not been divorced long enough to want that again yet. However, we did want to move in together this summer- it was a plan albeit not set in stone. It actually makes very good financial sense as well. BUT.......


I have reservations. He's done GREAT at cutting back and altering his socializing/drinking times and I believe he has done this for himself as much as

~Pacific~
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In reply to: pacific_sun
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:26pm
LOL!!!! Thanks for the giggles....much needed :o)
~Pacific~
~Pacific~