My weekend - happy update

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My weekend - happy update
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:35pm

Okay - so Cat gave us a challenge for the weekend. Luckily for me I have my DS the whole weekend and we had such a great time AND I had almost no training since a very important race is coming up next weekend. I feel like a race horse that got barn rest. One day we cleaned the windows and the next the whole kitchen. DS also got a new slurpee machine so I have been enjoying those - it is a great way to get him to enjoy more fruit juice.

Lifeguard and I have talked about our kids quite a bit. I must say the thing that strikes me as being so good for him is that he dearly loves his son and sees him at least 3 times per week. They do a lot of fun activities and especially given that his son is a teenager - that is not easy to keep one busy! He also gets along really well with his son's mom and her husband and appreciates all they do and it sounds like the three of them work together well. He is just really positive. And I like how he accepts his son for who he really is and is supportive with is dreams and goals.

I want Lifeguard to meet my son. We are now almost at the three month mark and it is going very well. It is just easy. Not too fast - we only see each other about two times per week as our schedules both allow with work and kids. And I am not looking to start an instant family and have them spend gobs of time together. And this is sooner than I would have done so in the past but DS is now a preteen and I am not so worried about him getting super attached - his dad is active in his life. But it is important for me to have Lifeguard see me as a mom and meet my son and also to see how my son reacts and to see how they interact from time to time.

And Lifeguard is thrilled that he would get to meet him and tickled that I mentioned him to my son. But at the same time he is terrified that we will screw this up because I mean a lot to him. So we have been discussing this at length with how to go about it. Apparently his son's mom didn't always do so well with this and my exh surely made about every mistake in the book his last time around. So we discussed all of these mistakes and our own philosophies and what is best for my DS. And he said we should go to the beach and visit - take it slow and not overwhelm DS or make him feel threatened in any way. He remembers his son at that age and says mom is his whole world.

Okay - so on Sunday we were supposed to meet for a ride early - just a short one. But he got called into work. And that is fine because I knew that was a possibility and can save the ride for today which we did. So, he says we are welcome to come to the beach and that we did.

And it went well. He spoiled us with his beach stuff so we didn't have to schlep it - I think he adjusted the umbrella like 1000 times to make sure it was just right and he had cold drinks for us and we had the best spot on the beach saved for us. DS was thrilled to meet him - they got to chat a bit and Lifeguard complimented DS on his great swimming and body-surfing abilities and promised to let him use the boogy board and new surfboard the next time around. DS had a lot of fun with me - he put sand in my hair and splashed me. We had a great day at the beach and all went well. And DS liked him - he says next time he wants to sit in the stand. DS also appreciates our approach.

He also took me to his house. It is small but he is proud of it and wanted to show me and says I am the first girl he has really taken to his house - usually it is just him and his son and dad. I got to see pix of his son and he is really cute.

He is also going to get up at 4AM to take me to the airport for my race at the end of the week and will get out of work early to pick me up when I come back if needed.

So things are going well so far. I must say it is so nice when he is "that into you" and the match is good for having things in common and mutual attraction and respect. I am taking it day by day.

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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:47pm
Great update Judy!
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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 11:16pm

So nice to hear things are going well for you! He seems like such a great guy (who treats you the way you deserve to be treated).

good luck and keep the updates coming.

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 12:03am

It sounds very comfortable .. in terms of pacing, emotional closeness, and well everything.

I need to take notes for myself for I tend to get so excited about the possibilities that I get really intense which scares women.

Thanks for sharing. I wish you the best on this one.

Mark

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 8:13am

I love this post! I'm glad you inroduced them, you're really taking it all in and having fun. That's the key, and i'm also glad the two of you can be active together- for you, I can't imagine anyone who couldn't do that or didn't have interest in those things.

Way to go!

Moody, throwing sparkles at you


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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 8:51am

That is so great Judy! I'm really happy that you have found a guy that is into you and is not pushy. He sounds like a great guy.

Keep us updated when you can!!!

Jennifer

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 9:45am

Yay Judy! I'm glad things are rolling along well (and at your pace) with you guys! Sounds like there are nothing but green flags and no red ones! I hope it continues to build for a long, long time!

~shrimpy, beaming at you

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 9:51am

That is SOOOO cool! I am very happy for you! I think it's great that you took such a huge step. Did lifeguard mention anything regarding you meeting his son soon?

You are pacing yourself sooo well with this relationship. I can even feel the happy and exciting tingles from you out of this post. Big hugs to you!!!!!!!!!!

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 10:49am

Oh yes - when I was looking at the pic and saying how cute he is - he said - don't worry you will get to meet him soon. He has also mentioned that his dad is going to be really impressed when he meets me!

We just booked a trip for him, his son, his dad, me and my son to Orlando in the fall - we have a race up there and we are going to take his dad and our 2 boys to the water park up there as well.

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 11:11am

Yaye, Judy!

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Tue, 08-14-2007 - 11:31am
WHOA! Is that going to be like the FIRST official vacation together?

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