My Weekend (so far)

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My Weekend (so far)
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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 4:30am

Wow... this week has been hard because my boss chewed me out and my boss is the type of person who would not do something like that unless I really screwed up. This pushes my not be competent button and my job security issues. So I really started worrying and doubting myself.

So comes Friday, my DD15 AND my DS18 came over and we went out to dinner and rented the X-Men. It was so nice to have DS18 around after being away at college. Saturday morning I got both up so we had the day to do something together before they went back to their mother's place. So I woke both up and then went back downstairs. After rattling around I went back up to check on them to make sure they did not go back to sleep. I found DD15's room empty but nobody in the bathroom. I look in DS18's room and found DD under a blanket next to him and he was playing on his laptop. I found that so endearing! She loves her big brother and visa versa.

We went to a neighborhood parade and festival with DS's GF and had an OK time.

Tonight I went out dancing with Lynn, 36 yo nurse from Match. We went out for coffee and had a talk on the phone. She cancelled on a date by saying that after our phone conversation she felt I was too intense. I want to see this funk and soul band and threw it out there to Lynn and she accepted. So we went out to dinner and then dancing. We both felt better about "us" but it's a friendship until she feels more comfortable (the take it slow approach). She said a couple of times how she likes me. So we are going to get together again .. so w00t! What I loved is that we had open, honest conversation so I think I alleviated her fears of me being "intense." No goodnight kiss but a nice hug.

Sunday AM update -email from Lynn:
Hi Mark, I thoroughly enjoyed myself too. You "dance like no one is watching" and it's a wonder and joy to behold :)

And I also appreciate your understanding and patience as far as the dating vs friends thing is concerned. People give lip service (especially on on-line dating sites) to "Let's be friends first and see where it goes", but I always thought that was just a line and that it didn't really mean anything. But it feels right with us. I'm afraid that if I/we started talking/getting romantic that I'd run for the hills. -Lynn
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I got email from Pam, the 42 yr old mountain climbing school counselor who was introduced to me by a mutual friend, a men's group friend of mine who taught in the same school as Pam. We had a nice dinner but she was too busy with life to want to date so just as well for keeping up with a 40 something whose life is mountain climbing is not for me no matter how attractive she is. Anyway Pam invited me to see a play with her on Sunday with some friends of hers. I accepted so again w00t!!

So things are looking back up relationship-wise but it's an up-and-down process isn't it?

eHarmony I had my first open communication and I'll be having lunch with Margaret next Sunday.

The other open communication was with this woman who rather just exchange emails for a while. I told her that it is not my preference because I hate writing emails so we'll see how my patience is as we do this.

Mark who loved dancing with a hot, slender blonde who made eye contact and in turn who liked my dancing

We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb




Edited 5/11/2008 12:46 pm ET by mhash
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Registered: 03-19-2008
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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 8:16pm

Mark,

I am shocked that you did not receive 25 replies by now. Normally your posts draw a lot of attention.

I hope you enjoy the date tonight. Post here to let us know how it goes. Possibly you are looking for that serious relationship too hard. Relax and enjoy your dates. Sounds like some interesting women you are meeting. I would date the mountain climber. hahaha. She sounds fun.

I sense that your kids have a good time with you and that they are relaxed at home with you.

Laurie

anonymous
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Sun, 05-11-2008 - 8:24pm

My dear, after going 1,000 mph with all of the dates you have had, I can totally understand why you would go into a funk when one weekend slows down! Okay - sorry - just had to tease you - I KNOW the whole dating thing is just exasperating at best when you really want to find that elusive match and it just keeps slipping through your fingers.

But hang in there - it sounds to me from all you write that you know what you want, you have the same to offer as what you want and it is just a matter of a wee bit more time that the princess arrives on the scene. At least you are getting a lot of dates and weeding through them - and we are all the merrier for getting all the stories and the inside man dating scoop!!

I hope your weekend went better - and that the boss is enamored with you next week. Do keep us posted. That was a lot of frustrating stuff at once for sure!