My weekend

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Registered: 06-04-2004
My weekend
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Sun, 07-20-2008 - 11:01pm

Last full weekend without the kids!


Didn't do much on Friday, except went with my Dad to the cardiology place for him to get all sorts of testing. They didn't find anything wrong with him! He's in his mid-70's and healthy! So we might not ever find out what caused the runs of 140's HRs last month. But whatever it is, it's not something that is still there, or detectable by ay of the tests they ran.


Saturday morning I went with my Dad to a local geocaching event. It's always great to meet up with old caching buddies and hearing more caching stories. Then the event itself was a blast! Dad & I didn't win (we didn't expect to) but we felt like we worked well as a team again, and had alot of fun.


Later Saturday afternoon, Hiker took me to see the Journey to the Center of the Earth movie in 3D... and that was a fun movie, with some cool 3D shots. I absolutely loved the parts where people jumped or screamed because of something that was 3D/scary on the screen. Hiker jumped when a yo-yo came at us- though I'm sure he wouldn't admit to jumping at that... I know he did. LOL And some lady sitting behind us let out a completely out-loud scream at one scene with a big fish with teeth!! LOL

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
In reply to: shrimpychimps
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 10:23pm

Hey Laurie,


"Is this a serious, exclusive thing with Hiker?"


Yep, it is! It's nearly 3-yrs of exclusive dating, we're committed to each other and having a great time. But not rushing for the altar and trying to move in together and all that.

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: shrimpychimps
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 10:27pm

Shrimpy,

I think you have a wonderful relationship with Hiker because you've been able to take out the expectations of everyone ELSE around you as to what you should be/ do/ say/ hear.

You're doing what feels RIGHT for you and Hiker, not anyone else.

Keep it up!

Al- who's learning so much about herself from being a cl of the most amazing board :)




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In reply to: shrimpychimps
Mon, 07-21-2008 - 10:40pm

Thanks, Alison!!


After being in a marriage (and getting married in the first place) where I felt like I was doing what I was "supposed to do" according to what- some societal timeline?

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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In reply to: shrimpychimps
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 8:30am
Shrimpy you & Hiker seem to have such fun- you sound perfect for each other. :o)

 



Tracy

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In reply to: shrimpychimps
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 10:50am

I think you are doing very good Shrimps!! I like that you put you and the kids first and I do respect that you don't want to turn your kids upside down on the blended family thing - it is sort of blending its own way over time - and that is very good - for all parties involved.

I think a lot of people see marriage as one more romantic step and they have all of these unrealistic and unhealthy expectations - but it really is a big step that has to serve the common good of all involved - and it is a big commitment - I see it as more of a commitment to a lifestyle - not just getting a ring like getting a stack of flowers.

It is great that he volunteered to go and is using his car. I love all of your stories!! It has been so much fun to watch them over 3 years. I can remember when you first posted your first vacation story on DASP and we were all giving you advice on how to do that. LOL!!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
In reply to: shrimpychimps
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 2:17pm

I've learned to stop listening to OTHER people's comments or timelines of what they think I should be doing "by now"


Shrimpy, that's exactly where I'm at right now and it has caused me a lot of problems when I feed into it.

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In reply to: shrimpychimps
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 2:32pm

~Pacific~
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In reply to: shrimpychimps
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 5:46pm

I LOVE your sense of humor Pac!!!


~b~

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In reply to: shrimpychimps
Tue, 07-22-2008 - 6:07pm

LOL Pac-Sun! I thought about that for a second when I typed it... but then didn't change it because I couldn't think of any other way to describe what it felt like, but a pair of socks. Just a match to each other, and comfy as well. :-) Although I'd like to think we're a bit more exciting than just socks... but it still works! And the thing about the dryer- makes me think of the bit by Jerry Seinfeld about the socks. They stick to the side of the dryer wall... trying to hide when the door opens and the clothes are taken out... and looking for their moment of escape... LOL


Thanks for your cheers too, Tracy!


Judy- I remember that very first overnight road trip we took together, with the kids- and it was SO early in the relationship for that!!! But it all turned out fine. I am glad though- that he didn't push more of the group things that early after I mentioned my hesitations with the insta-family thing. It just seemed too fast, too soon. It meant ALOT to me that he understood and listened.


Fast forward to now, and it wouldn't be a big deal to go on group road trips and there's NO hesitation in my mind for stuff like that. It has just been a nice, slow and easy transition for everyone to adjust to the fact that the other family is going to be around. But still no forcing of all the kids together except now and then. So it isn't "forcing" in any way! We just have casual gatherings, and it works out. Everything really has been easy, because we've moved slowly and let it all unfold naturally. :-)


Here's to more Board Socks!!

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

~<

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