Need Advice about meeting men?!
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Need Advice about meeting men?!
| Wed, 06-29-2005 - 9:59pm |
Hello everyone, i'm Yasmari and have been lurking about here for awhile. I'm a 20 year old single mother of a 14month old daughter. Anyway i was with her father on and off for 5 years, and that didn't work out. Now i am single, and wanting to start dating again. The problem is....i don't know heck...i don't know what the problem is. I've always been mature for my age, and never really been on the same plane as men my age. Hence why i've always dated older men. I don't go out really, i go to school full time, and when i'm not there i'm visiting family or paying bills. Then i come home, and spend time with my daughter. Pretty boring, huh? I don't go out to clubs, go drinking, or smoke or anything. Note: That's pretty big i live near Kansas University! And i enjoy things like reading, going to coffee shops and getting steamers, listening to Jazz, and then like. No one my age enjoys those things. Besides that i don't want to just be bringing all types of men around my daughter. I would like to get in a committed relationship, and take things from there. However the men in my town are concerned with getting laid, and commitment isn't even in their vocabulary. So i guess my question is, how do you go about meeting someone in this crazy world? Do i just need to date older, or what? LOL. Anyway, any advice you could give me would be greatly appreciated!

Hi there and welcome!
You are asking the $25 million dollar question - we all want to know the answer to where to find a nice guy that wants a relationship and is single.
I think you have to do what you can to be out meeting people while doing the things you like to do. You do sound very mature for your age and you deserve a big compliment and pat on the back for being such a young and wonderful single mom.
I wish I could say that older guys are more mature - but age is not a guarantee - there are plenty of 30 year olds and 40 year olds that are the same as the 20 year olds you describe.
I think you should look outside of the university crowd for dating prospects. Men in college are just marking time until they have to get out and get jobs.
I would suggest that you date older men, but not that much older. Try looking for guys who are out of college and have a career path. I think you can find a decent guy who is still a 20-something.