Need Advice, Ladies only please.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2007
Need Advice, Ladies only please.
74
Wed, 10-17-2007 - 2:57pm

Current girlfriend has two children, one 11 and the other 16. We've been dating for about 10 months now, and I was introduced to the kids back in the end of June. I/we have been very sensitive to the children's feelings and needs, and I try not to be together with my lovely SO too much when the kids are around. She has shared custody, so the kids are with their dad half the week, her the other. I'm never with her when the kids are there with the exception of a couple of Saturday nights recently, where I took the whole bunch to dinner one of them and cooked dinner for them the other. ( I'm not counting the trip to the boardwalk they begged for and the trip to the concert where I got them backstage passes which they don't stop talking about, especially the 11 year old.) I don't stay overnight at all nor do I stay past 9:30 when the kids are there.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 2:43pm

Girl! Don't you know it! I throw Midol at my 13yr old all the time LOL...well at least once or twice a month. We were eating out last week and she was in such a funky mood I finally told her, if you can't carry on a decent conversation with me, don't say nothing. It was so annoying. It's like they have all this pent up anger sometimes and just don't know how to deal.

This board is a goldmine of information. It's better than Dr. Phil!!! LOL

Sharon

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2007
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 4:09pm

Hey all, thanks. All of it sounds good.


For the record both parents have seen him "not lucid" but because they haven't figured out how to deal with the parenting issues created by their divorce nor can they agree on uniform discipline,

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 4:16pm

If I missed your answer to my question I apologize, but I'm going to ask it again....

how long have these two been divorced?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2007
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 6:31pm

Hey Zen,


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 10:11am

Hey Emma!


Their divorce was official in April, but they haven't lived under the same roof for over

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 10:35am

I do hope things work out for you. May take some patience on your part, but you seem like an understanding person.

Personally, I still think that even though the parents did not reside in the same house before the divorce, the finality of the divorce is still only 6 months fresh for the kids. Going from 70% with dad to 50/50 .... lot of bouncing back and forth between parents, IMO.

Sending best wishes your way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 10:49am

Hi Zen,


Thank you for adding to your story.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 11:59am

All great advice. Thank you a ton ladies!


I have two brothers,

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2004
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 12:12pm

Teenagers! Sheesh!

I think I would HAVE to call him back and ask "Why are you calling me when you don't want me in your mom's life?"

I try to have patience with teenagers but it's soooo hard sometimes! lol

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 12:18pm

My sister always says 'Teenagers make me

Pages