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need advice or a swift kick
| Sat, 01-05-2008 - 6:24pm |
Ok...I'm writing because my instincts tell me to walk away and keep my mouth shut, but I really don't know if that is the right thing or not. I'm talking about Mr. Exotic. To recap, we fooled around pretty heavily on new years eve after definitely expressing interest in each other. I DID NOT have sex with him, nor did I do something else that he was pushing me pretty hard to do. Nope...sorry Mr! Not me and not yet. I told him that

The thing is, that he may NOT have used you.
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Let it go. You had fun - but you didn't do anything you didn't want. All you were left with is some expectation that he would want the same thing. But he doesn't. The more you talk to him the more you feed this expectation.
Pretend his a pile of trash floating by on the proverbial river - and there you are watching it float away - bye bye - it is not what you want.
He wanted sex - you wanted a relationship. End of story.
I agree with Alison, but from another direction.
If he's not a gentleman, he can 'let it be known' at your single parent's group that you had consensual snogging, but then blamed him for it.
If he ever looks you straight in the eye and says, "hey are you upset about something? you seem kinda _____?" maybe you can tell him you just dont have room for people who take your physical or emotional generosity and throw it out the window. Waiting for that moment will be worth it if it ever happens. NOt writing at all or being in contact at all gets my vote for sure!
ITA with everyone. Move on. If it would make you feel better you could write your message to him on paper, then just throw it away. I liked West's visualization tactic. And let's face it, there are just times when the petting gets a little too heavy and it is hard to calm yourself down about the whole situation. Everyone's BTDT at one point in their life. It may have been happening to him at that time also. The next day he may have been calling HIMSELF a jerk and thinking "I can't call her now, there's no telling what she thinks of me."
Emma...wondering where Soonee comes up with these words ... "snogging", LOL
"Snogging" comes straight out of Harry Potter.
What would writing him accomplish? (Al, are you reading this? lol ... i should listen to my OWN advice! hehehe)
You feel/know he was using you. He obvioulsy didnt RESPECT you if he was "pushing that hard" for what i think he was.