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| Thu, 05-31-2007 - 4:51pm |
First of all let me say that reading all your dating stories always gives me hope.
However, they make me sad as well. You lucky ladies get dates, all I ever get is ghosted on, I don't ever get dates! In 2 months I've had about a dozen of what seemed like promising men email me on POF, but it always follows the same pattern they email me a few times, we exchange numbers and poof, they are gone!
Right now I'm emailing with what seems like another promising guy, we exchanged numbers last night, but I just feel like he'll be another ghoster. I can't even sum up enthusiasum any more. I've taken a thousand and one breaks from it, but I always have to go back because I have my kid 24/7 , have no social life, and that's the only way I'll ever meet anybody.
Another serious thing that is happening in my life, My job is being eliminated on 07/01/07. I've never been unemployed in my life! I've been job hunting almost 8 months and I can't get a break there either. As the time comes closer, I'm starting to have nightmares about what will happen to us if I can't get another job. My part time modeling has lately been drying up as well, as they are using(shocker) younger girls, so the work is far and few between. It would kill me to loose everything that I worked so hard for, I'm basically alone in this world, so I have absolutely no one I can count on. It's not like I can move in with my parents or anything like that, so if I loose it all, I go straight into a homeless shelter. I already told my XH that like it or not, he will have to take his dd if I end up losing my place.
I fight so hard to stay positive, to stay focused, but lately it just been so damned hard.
My faith is what's holding me up right now. I signed up to become a volunteer with a really good charity, so that I won't go out of my mind staying home. It just really sucks, no vacation, no nothing to look forward to.
Thanks for letting me vent. Please just send positive thought my way, something's gotta give.

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Oh Taina, HUGS to you!!
We are always here to listen. And you know what? You are a smart gal that has always done well, I know that you have worries now but I also know that you will pull through because you always have. Something better might be around the corner!!
Sorry to hear about the ghosts. I had a long period of ghosts. I think it is just the nature of OLD sometimes. And who knows, maybe this one will be okay?
Sending you hugs, hope, positive vibes\and prayers.
Mark
I truly know what being unemployed feels like, and it is scary and horrible to think about the "what might be's". However, you need to have faith that everything always works out in the end, and everything happens for a reason.
Let go. Let God.
If you're feeling like a trip upstate, we're hiring ;-)
Something will come up, something always does. Don't stress too much about it, just keep looking, and don't sell yourself short or keep your options too limited, there's bound to be something for you out there!
As for the man thing- the right one will come when he's supposed to, the key is finding things to do for YOU, and having a man enrich that.
Moody, who hates the thought of changing jobs
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It's all going to work out- and you KNOW it will!
Thank you guys so much for your positive messages. It feels real nice to know I have my peeps here to lift me up when I'm down.
Mark, I have been a fan of your work for a while now. It was really nice of you to send
me your positive vibes my way.
Well everyone's positive energy seems to be working, as I'm feeling much better today.
Have a good weekend everyone.
I'm so sorry for all of this. So your company cannot give you recommendations for other jobs? I mean if they are not FIRING you, why can't they help you look?
I have an idea. Maybe you have already been this route so I'm sorry if you have btdt, but have you registered at temp agencies? They have permanent jobs they place you on as well as temp jobs. I just accepted a great job thru one.
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Thanks for the tips. My company has been going out of business since 2002, they have kept us there by giving us bonuses and lump sum contributions to our 401k plan. My main purpose for staying was to become vested in our pension plan, which i did. I had a gut feeling last year that the end was comming up for me, so I started my search then. My boss told me in January, and I'm the only one that knows. They are letting go 19 others along with me, and these poor folks have no idea, it's comming. I've been trying to find out, so I can warn any of my buddies if they are one the chopping block, but they are really keeping tight lipped.
We all leave with really good packages, and they offer career counseling if you want it.
I once ran those classes, so I already know the tips. My boss has tried unsuccessfully to hook me up, but the job market here is in a seriously bad slump.
I have signed up with just about every recruiter there is in NYC and have also signed up to take on temp assignments if nothing else comes up. I have also called every contact I ever had and let them know that I'm availible.
I have done just about everything that I can, it's just that with the slow market, my very specific job type and experience (27 years), I'm not so easy to place because these companies want kids just starting out so that they can get them for dirt cheap. I'm really starting to feel the sting of age discrimination here, all the places I've interviewed so far, have a lot of very young staff. It's all about hiring for the cheapest pay.
I'll keep pluging away, sooner or later something will come through.
Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I have to say that I feel for you and I could have almost written your post. I have been underemployed with no benefits for almost 8 months now. I have been looking for a job and have applied for literally hundreds with nothing turning up. It has been very difficult to say the least and my kids haven't been able to do much of anything. They are with their dad every other weekend so I do get some down time but don't really get out much because of the money issue. I have no family or anyone to really turn to either and that is really hard. I'm so glad the my kids have each other so, hopefully, they will always have family to turn to to help them over a rough spot.
If you have retirement money, tap into it if you can. The penalties and interest will be a killer but that will give you some of a buffer. See how much time you have with only the resources that you have. If you own, as awful as it may sound, think about selling so that you can have some money to live on until something comes along.
I really know where you are coming from and it is difficult. Don't give up just yet. Be as frugal as possible and save every dime. Take whatever job you can come up with to keep something coming in.
I really feel for you.
Priscilla
PS - Just yesterday I was offered a position that pays enough more than I'm making now that I will be ok for a while longer. Still no benefits but I have been told it should become a full time regular position with full benefits by the fall. Although there are no guarentees, I'm thrilled (they may hire someone from outside when the position goes permanent but I will wow them). This is my first break in months and I want to see it in the best light possible.
I had been out of professional work for four years, just after my divorce so I got hit with a double whammy. Of course I was on the hook for support.
I was dumped by email by the most intimate relationship I've ever had in my life. One of the reasons she gave was me being out of work for the year we were together.
I have graduate degrees in computer engineering and business. Oregon has been the worse state in terms of employment in the country. I did not move because my children are here.
I started working again as a technology professional for four years now and before that I was being a janitor.
I tell people my time out of work was my spiritual sabbatical.
Take care.
Mark
Priscilla, big hugs to you. I'm glad you got that offer. I'm really blessed that as part of my package I get my COBRA paid for a up to year, so at least I don't have to worry about health/dental coverage for a while. I will have my package money as well. That's phase 1 along with unemployment ins., phase 2 will be my own savings, which I don't want to spend as I have been saving for years to buy my first home/condo. phase 3 and final will be taping into my 401K funds, once they're gone that's it. My pension does not allow for loans or anything, so I can't touch those funds till I'm 65. I estimate that I can keep going for a year, but I would end up being 100% wiped out and that's what scares me the most.
I paid my way through college performing just about every crappy job known to man. If I have to roll up my sleeves and do it again, so be it! One thing about me, I've always been good at hustling a buck. My best work has always been done when my back was up against the wall.
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