I would just say - "cannot talk now because I am in a relationship - but thanks for the note and good luck with your search."
But I would NOT show the BF that - because I feel that puts you in a "prover" all the time type of thing. But that is just my gut reaction. You have to do what feels right for you.
Well I can at least give you the view point of what you b/f is feeling. BOY HAVE I BEEN THERE! I've been the more untrusting one..the one who needed the validation like your b/f does.
I give your b/f a lot of credit for not blowing up or over reacting when you got that text. Its probably because you ARE already showing him that you are trustworthy by being so open and honest- you're showing him you have nothing to hide. That goes a long way!
Its good that, if you do want to remain exclusive with your bf, you do follow through and text the guy back. I would just say "I'm seeing someone and it's exclusive. Thanks for asking anyway. Take care of yourself!" Something like that..
I agree with the others..no need to show your bf. He'll need to trust you that you go through with it. The guy could be persistant..be prepared for that. Good luck!!
I was once in a situation where I had talked a few times to a woman who (as it turns out) had a boyfriend, and after the third call or so, she said that she had mentioned me to her boyfriend, and he didn't really like the idea of me calling her. I said I understood and didn't pursue her anymore. It made perfect sense to me. I knew I was pursuing her, and her boyfriend had every right to be bothered by that. If you say something like that and the guy still persists, then you have a red flag right away that he might not have the highest standards of integrity, and he's not worth your time anyway, as a friend or otherwise.
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I would just say - "cannot talk now because I am in a relationship - but thanks for the note and good luck with your search."
But I would NOT show the BF that - because I feel that puts you in a "prover" all the time type of thing. But that is just my gut reaction. You have to do what feels right for you.
Well, you don't really have to reply at all... he didn't indicate a need for a reply: as in asking a question.
I didn't think of that.
Hi Cool Cat-
Well I can at least give you the view point of what you b/f is feeling. BOY HAVE I BEEN THERE! I've been the more untrusting one..the one who needed the validation like your b/f does.
I give your b/f a lot of credit for not blowing up or over reacting when you got that text. Its probably because you ARE already showing him that you are trustworthy by being so open and honest- you're showing him you have nothing to hide. That goes a long way!
Its good that, if you do want to remain exclusive with your bf, you do follow through and text the guy back. I would just say "I'm seeing someone and it's exclusive. Thanks for asking anyway. Take care of yourself!" Something like that..
I agree with the others..no need to show your bf. He'll need to trust you that you go through with it. The guy could be persistant..be prepared for that. Good luck!!
Ok - I did send the text - just said something like "I'm doing great, have met a wonderful guy and am very happy.
"I jut deleted that one and didn't mention it. LOL"
PERFECT!!
I'm doing great, have met a wonderful guy and am very happy.
he's glad I'm happy but would like to talk sometime.
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