Need some advise before I bust his .....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Need some advise before I bust his .....
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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 10:14am

bleep bleep &^^&&*D@@# bleep rear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1


Ok, my X, let me clarify, my second X is a complete idiot!!!!

 
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Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 10:58am

UGH!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 11:22am

I know and your right.

 
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 11:51am

Meaning this morning I have signed DS13 up for babysitting training with the Red Cross.

April

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 3:22pm

13 is certainly old enough to babysit one's own siblings- sheesh. I was babysitting at 13, but not infants. It depends on the kid. Some at age 13 are responsible enough, some aren't. I have a horror story on a 13 yr old babysitter, but again it was that particular 13 yr old kid's home life that the mom was unaware of, that was the critical factor. Let's just say the outcome was tragic all around.
When D4 was born I put both of her BROTHERS, then 12 and 15 in a Red Cross babysitting class. They watch her all the time: when I'm in class, one of them will pick her up from preschool, feed her, take her to the park, the pool etc. They have no illusions about the reality of raising kids, and that as fathers, they will be equally responsible for raising their own kids. Neither one can ever say to his future wife that he doesn't know how to change a diaper.

QueenBun

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Registered: 11-21-2007
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 4:09pm
Sorry to get off topic...but why doesn't he pay child support?

 

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 6:09pm

Soccermom,


Jeez, I hope you dont think I am being too forward but why doesnt he pay support? Mine does pay support and I still do whatever I please raising the kids. As far as I am concerned someone who doesnt help support their kids doesnt have a say so in raising them.


Laurie

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Registered: 06-21-2007
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 2:35am

He's an ass.


There is no reason a responsible 13 yo cant watch kids, particularly if they are asleep. The easiest way to solve that is call the local PD. Ask for the supervisor, or go speak with them. Advise them of the situation. They will probably agree with you that it's fine. Soooo, when the ex wants to call in, they are already well aware of the score and will do what they should do, but look at both sides since they already know one of them.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 05-03-2008 - 4:57pm

Nah, you gals aren't too forward, I'm a freaking open book, LOL.

 
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Registered: 06-21-2007
Mon, 05-05-2008 - 10:46pm

This was one of the toughest things for me and mine. My ex will still send them home with so much candy they aren't done with it by the time they see him again...

I have my kids about 90% of the time, so this advice is tempered by that. I just had to tough it out during the 50/50 time. I had to explain to them that while they felt I was being mean, it was the best thing for this reason, etc. Eventually, they have figured out that when it comes to counting on someone to really pay attention to their welfare, its me and all me doing it.

I didn't want their dad to be such a moron, and I sure wish he'd stop now that the divorce is over. Unfortunately that isn't going to happen. The only thing I can say is stick to your guns. If you make your kids become more self sufficient they'll whine the whole way through. They will also respect you and appreciate it far more once they get tired of complaining. You are doing the right thing.