Need some help staying strong

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Need some help staying strong
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Tue, 07-08-2008 - 8:41pm

I don't why I have this pathetic gene but apparently I feel the need to make everyone else feel better.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 7:43am

Seems like he is trying to make you seem like the bad person. Takes the focus off him. It looks like he knows how to work you. My advice is dont fall for it. My ex husband did the same thing. Woe is me. You took my kids and left me here all alone. I fell for it for a bit but then I realized it was all a head game. But then I got over it while I was thinking that if he treated us with some decency then I wouldnt have taken the kids and left. How long can you treat a person like sh_t and expect them to stick around?!

Youre doing the right thing. I think its up to him to show how much he wants to grow up and be a father. He needs to show he can put the break up behind him and be a dad. Mine never did that. It was nearly 6 years ago and he disappeared. Which in a way is a good thing since I dont have to deal with his carp anymore.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 8:23am

Awwwwwww don't feel bad.

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 9:47am

Thank you all for such valuable advice!!!

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:20am

I'm glad you're doing better today.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:49am

I know this is a very hard time..and you are doing the right thing by putting your foot down about the living arrangements. Whatever you can do to allow safe visits between your ds and him will be very good for your ds. Good for you for following through- I know this is hard.


It brings me back to when my ex and I finally moved apart. We had been separated but still living together for a few months. Funny thing is that even though we had decided to divorce months earlier and had practically living separate lives under one roof..the day he actually moved his stuff felt very bad to me. I knew it was

~Pacific~
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:51am

L binny ~ lol being like PDiddy for a moment with the nickname


Hey, I like it, very hip!! LOL!!


P-Sun...feelin' all gangsta now.

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 11:55am

P-Sun...feelin' all gangsta now


ROTFLOL!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 12:01pm
You go "gansta girl"
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 12:05pm

Honey, I think you're a little more 'granola' than 'gangsta'!!!


LMAO!!


Yo...see I'm down wit it.


P-Sun who admits to carrying soy-joy granola in her hand weaved shoulder bag. :p

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 12:08pm
Yes but