Yes - we are a lively bunch and I always learn a lot every day from the wonderful women here. And we are glad to have you here - the more the merrier for sure.
Anyway, you ask how do you meet.
I saw a great article online the other day from a dating coach - David Wygant - you can google him to find more of his stuff - but anyway he had this great concept of meeting on line - not online - but in a line - meaning everywhere you go.
On a line at the bank or coffee shop. In the grocery store. In a book shop. In special interest groups. At your kids' schools and special functions and activities.
I really believe that the more of a happy life you carve out with special interests - the more likely you are to meet the right person and to have access to meeting more people.
He said it is important to feel great about yourself and be happy with yourself and SMILE and strike up interesting conversation and always leave an interested party with a way to contact you.
I also think if you can meet as many people as possible you increase your network - and this brings new friends and activities for meeting people and not feeling lonely.
Online dating is good - it brings the world to your door - which is a blessing and a challenge. You have to be able to weed through - but of course if you want help and opinions we can offer that based on what you write.
GOOD LUCK and keep us posted - stick around - keep reading and write us your opinion as well.
In "a line" eh! I wonder if anyone posting here has met anyone that way! :o) I'm terrible when I'm out shopping, I tend not to pay attention to people.
I have no problem with the smiling and chatting thing... I just find that 99% of the men I am around seem to be married. I was at my DD's swim meet yesterday. I was next to an interesting man who was not wearing a ring. But instead of talking to him, I stood there and worried that he must just not be wearing his ring. Silly me.
I guess everyday is a new opportunity. I am one of those that will chat in line. Piggly Wiggly here I come!
Well I know I have told the story before but SYB and I met about 2 and a half years ago and we were at the Apple store buying computers. We were waiting for the salesperson IN LINE and struck up a conversation because the salesguy kept saying it would "change our lives" and we were debating whether we would be ok with that or whether we would need a detailed explanation about which parts were up for grabs! it was funny and he was British ( still his LOL) and I was totally drawn to him. We spoke a while that day and he offered to help me get things to my car but I refused because I was feeling nervous since I didnt know him very well. But then every time I went in there for five weeks afterwards I would run into him. Both opf us had to buy the computer and insurance and printer and software in increments since we are self employed and get paid in chunks so we kept going in and for some reason we were always there at the same time. It took several run in meetings for us to finally give it up and go out to lunch but by then our friends new us as the Apple Guy and the Apple Girl and we still joke about it. It was a great start and the thing I remember about our first conversation is that neither of us were really looking for action. We were just happy people trying to make fun out of a line. And we clicked. He told me later he thought I was married because I talked about my DS in our first conversation and he thought that was my way of telling him I was taken but really I was just sharing and talking and being myself. I think the more places and situations you put yourself in where you can be truly yourself and have a good time, the more people you will attract. It worked for us!!
WOW City - I had figured you met at a concert - what a story - this gets story of the week!! You have been hiding it all this time!!!!!
I was really laughing at the dating coach's article - he followed one of his clients all day taking notes - she ignored cute single guys all day long from Starbucks to lunch to the store and the bookstore and then went out to a bar and complained that only drunk guys talked to her. So counted up the prospects that she overlooked in one day and then multiplied it by a year and it was pretty astounding. Then he played a video of a girl sitting outside at a table acting proper and not approachable - and a guy sitting next to her that is afraid to talk to her and then she gets up and walks away - and he says this is how NOT to be. He says you have to treat every guy like scoobydoo - funny, nice, likeable - smile and laugh - because that is what attracts them to you - and especially if you are happy and confident - he says never to leave the house unless you feel gorgeous - because it is more a matter of how you feel about yourself than the looks - he says body shape doesn't matter. He also says it is very easy to learn the art about striking up a conversation about what is at hand - the weather, the food, whatever you see right now - just make a fun comment and get the conversation going.
I bet in your case you were so worried about the computer that you just had fun talking to him.
I was sure I had told this story a while ago but thanks!! I really avoided making a date with him.....just kept running into each other and we both talked about the other with friends and family. Finally my Dad was like "what is your problem? You should just go to coffee" but I kept wondering why he hadnt asked ME already and didnt want to be too forward. And it was getting weirder and weirder to keep running into him EVERY time I went there. I had said I would do something the 3rd or 4th time if I ran into him again but then got shy and did nothing but chat him up and then had this sinking feeling that maybe I had blown it. I had to go back the next day for a training session on the computer so I did and was sad because he was not there for the very first time in weeks. I thought maybe this was it and I had missed my chance and was busy making peace and forgiving myself for being a whimp as I got in my car. I was thinking what a huge lesson this was for me because I dont meet people I click with all the time and I let him slip away. Then when I pulled out of the lot I almost ran over him. Literally. And I was on a major highway at this point so I couldnt pull over easily and my heart was pounding. I didnt stop, just kept driving but now I was laughing. So I really thought about it. I hadnt opened my heart to anyone really since the three year thing that was going nowhere and that had broken up about 9 months prior or so. I had dinner with a great gf that weekend and we had a dinner and toasted to what was me being ready to welcome my heart opening up to the world again and taking risks to be loved fully again. I know how corny that sounds but I felt so calm doing it. And it was healing in some way. And then the next Tuesday I got dressed, went to the store to buy the insurance for the computer ( this was literally my 6th time I think in there in a month paying for things in stages!) and I just knew he would show up and he did after about five minutes. I remember him looking at me like this was just crazy and we talked again for a while. I wondered whether he would ask me out and so I said to him "hey, am I keeping you by chatting this long....I have to wait in this long line and you might be done already" and he said " Well the thing is I was done at the store 20 minutes ago" and smiled at me. So I said " should we have lunch then?" and the rest is history. I know, ridiculous story huh? But it is ours and it will always be this strange fateful thing that happened to me once I finally let go and allowed myself to find what I had always deserved I think.....
If he was stalking me, consider me HAD!! ROFL he told me later he really liked me but never asked me out all those times because he assumed I was taken since I was talking about my son a lot and I had a ring ( not a wedding ring mind you but it was gold and has a gem on it) on my finger. he felt pretty silly when I told him but I think it also let him know that I am very genuine and of course I am going to be mentioning my son and my business and home and of course I am happy and smiley without being already committed!! I thought it was kind of cool that I had to explain that and it reminded me how ready I was to really be in relationship again!
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Welcome Periwinkle122!!!
Yes - we are a lively bunch and I always learn a lot every day from the wonderful women here. And we are glad to have you here - the more the merrier for sure.
Anyway, you ask how do you meet.
I saw a great article online the other day from a dating coach - David Wygant - you can google him to find more of his stuff - but anyway he had this great concept of meeting on line - not online - but in a line - meaning everywhere you go.
On a line at the bank or coffee shop. In the grocery store. In a book shop. In special interest groups. At your kids' schools and special functions and activities.
I really believe that the more of a happy life you carve out with special interests - the more likely you are to meet the right person and to have access to meeting more people.
He said it is important to feel great about yourself and be happy with yourself and SMILE and strike up interesting conversation and always leave an interested party with a way to contact you.
I also think if you can meet as many people as possible you increase your network - and this brings new friends and activities for meeting people and not feeling lonely.
Online dating is good - it brings the world to your door - which is a blessing and a challenge. You have to be able to weed through - but of course if you want help and opinions we can offer that based on what you write.
GOOD LUCK and keep us posted - stick around - keep reading and write us your opinion as well.
I'm terrible when I'm out shopping, I tend not to pay attention to people.
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Thanks West,
I have no problem with the smiling and chatting thing... I just find that 99% of the men I am around seem to be married. I was at my DD's swim meet yesterday. I was next to an interesting man who was not wearing a ring. But instead of talking to him, I stood there and worried that he must just not be wearing his ring. Silly me.
I guess everyday is a new opportunity. I am one of those that will chat in line. Piggly Wiggly here I come!
Ring or no ring - keep chatting - it is good practice - and maybe one with a ring has a brother or a friend with no ring.
"I guess everyday is a new opportunity."
That is a very positive belief and will take you to many good places!
WOW City - I had figured you met at a concert - what a story - this gets story of the week!! You have been hiding it all this time!!!!!
I was really laughing at the dating coach's article - he followed one of his clients all day taking notes - she ignored cute single guys all day long from Starbucks to lunch to the store and the bookstore and then went out to a bar and complained that only drunk guys talked to her. So counted up the prospects that she overlooked in one day and then multiplied it by a year and it was pretty astounding. Then he played a video of a girl sitting outside at a table acting proper and not approachable - and a guy sitting next to her that is afraid to talk to her and then she gets up and walks away - and he says this is how NOT to be. He says you have to treat every guy like scoobydoo - funny, nice, likeable - smile and laugh - because that is what attracts them to you - and especially if you are happy and confident - he says never to leave the house unless you feel gorgeous - because it is more a matter of how you feel about yourself than the looks - he says body shape doesn't matter. He also says it is very easy to learn the art about striking up a conversation about what is at hand - the weather, the food, whatever you see right now - just make a fun comment and get the conversation going.
I bet in your case you were so worried about the computer that you just had fun talking to him.
GREAT story!!
I know, ridiculous story huh? But it is ours and it will always be this strange fateful thing that happened to me once I finally let go and allowed myself to find what I had always deserved I think.....
Good Grief City!
Someone up there was certainly pulling some strings to get you 2 together ...... or else Apple Boy was stalking you! ROFLOL
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Tracy
he told me later he really liked me but never asked me out all those times because he assumed I was taken since I was talking about my son a lot and I had a ring ( not a wedding ring mind you but it was gold and has a gem on it) on my finger. he felt pretty silly when I told him but I think it also let him know that I am very genuine and of course I am going to be mentioning my son and my business and home and of course I am happy and smiley without being already committed!! I thought it was kind of cool that I had to explain that and it reminded me how ready I was to really be in relationship again!
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