I think it is good that he hasn't done the seeing GF thing in front of DS too much. I assume since DS has seen her so little your exh is still maintaining their one on one time a lot. Sounds like he and his GF are going slow, too, with regards to waiting a while to intoduce them. And if you are there and approving that is one more thing that is good for DS.
It is great that you two have such a good relationship.
I think sleeping on the couch is a great idea - it's what we did at first. We then progressed to sleeping together, but making sure that my bf was always on the couch by the time the kids got up - putting the alarm on for 5 in the morning! It was fun, and it was a good way of breaking the kids in. Actually, it was my DD who suggested that my bf sleep in my bed with me for the first time. She was only five at the time, bless her. She said she was happy to sleep in the same room with her brother cos they could chat to each other, and said that she felt sorry that I didn't have anyone to chat to in my bedroom, and why didn't I ask him if he wanted to be my "amoureux"... so sweet.
You have a great relationship with your ex, but would it be OK for you to make comments or suggestions about what you think he should do in his home? Even though I have a good relationship with my kiddos' dad, I don't think it would be my place to suggest what he should or should not do - I would hope that he would do the right thing, taking the kids' feelings into account, and it does sound like your ex has indeed done this.
You two seem to be good with the parenting. You guys really are lucky that way.
I have a friend who just went through a similar dilemna. The two had a horrible marriage, even worse break up, and other then their teenager never talked. This past summer the teen came to his mom and told her that dad had asked them how they feel about GF moving in. Ex and GF have been dating about 16 months.
"Doesn't it feel just like you were easy to replace?" Whoa, do i react to that line! And my BF's X probably would as well. I'll start a new thread on that one. QB
Can AVEREY have him as a dad??? Wow! What a GREAT relationship you guys have! I am SO jealous!
Anyway, I think its ok.
I agree with rlch - it all sounds good to me.
I think it is good that he hasn't done the seeing GF thing in front of DS too much. I assume since DS has seen her so little your exh is still maintaining their one on one time a lot. Sounds like he and his GF are going slow, too, with regards to waiting a while to intoduce them. And if you are there and approving that is one more thing that is good for DS.
It is great that you two have such a good relationship.
Let us know how it all goes. Good luck!
Maybe the GF doesn't have to sleep in dad's room?
We have other boardies here who have overnight guests sleep on the couch, or they take it for the night when there's no guestroom.
I think it's awesome that you and your ex can be such good coparents, and at this age, your son may not even question it.
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I think sleeping on the couch is a great idea - it's what we did at first. We then progressed to sleeping together, but making sure that my bf was always on the couch by the time the kids got up - putting the alarm on for 5 in the morning! It was fun, and it was a good way of breaking the kids in. Actually, it was my DD who suggested that my bf sleep in my bed with me for the first time. She was only five at the time, bless her. She said she was happy to sleep in the same room with her brother cos they could chat to each other, and said that she felt sorry that I didn't have anyone to chat to in my bedroom, and why didn't I ask him if he wanted to be my "amoureux"... so sweet.
You have a great relationship with your ex, but would it be OK for you to make comments or suggestions about what you think he should do in his home? Even though I have a good relationship with my kiddos' dad, I don't think it would be my place to suggest what he should or should not do - I would hope that he would do the right thing, taking the kids' feelings into account, and it does sound like your ex has indeed done this.
I think it will work out fine.
Clem xx
I agree with everyone else seems fine.
Thanks for all your replies!
You two seem to be good with the parenting. You guys really are lucky that way.
I have a friend who just went through a similar dilemna. The two had a horrible marriage, even worse break up, and other then their teenager never talked. This past summer the teen came to his mom and told her that dad had asked them how they feel about GF moving in. Ex and GF have been dating about 16 months.
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Whoa, do i react to that line!
And my BF's X probably would as well. I'll start a new thread on that one.
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