Nervous and Scared! LOL

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Nervous and Scared! LOL
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Sat, 05-19-2012 - 10:53am

I probably don't have reason to be at this point.  I've been separated since July, and divorce just became final in early April.  We have been mentally/spiritually separated for years tho.

I have never actually "dated" anyone.  And I've never been physically with anyone but  my exhusband.  XDH and I were good friends in high school and we didn't get together until I came back from college.  But, we didn't go out on dates or anything.  I came back from college, he came back from basic training, and we just moved in together and ended up married.  We have now reverted back to our high school platonic friendship.  After the hurt subsided from him running off with a twenty year old...

I now have someone that appears to be interested in me.  We've kind of reconnected on facebook.  I knew his wife and him for several years, but hadn't seen them in about 8-10 years.  He's been divorced 3 years.  He's asked me to call him, but didn't put his # in the message, so I gave him my # and told him to call any time.

This may seem stupid to most of you, but I just don't know the rules to the dating game.  LOL  He may not even call, or it may not even go anywhere after a phone call or two.  I guess I just need someone to tell me it will be alright!  :smileyhappy:  I won't let my mind wander anywhere near "what ifs" regarding the physical side of things.  Then I really freak out!

Laughing Cloud

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Re: Nervous and Scared! LOL
Sun, 07-29-2012 - 4:54pm

Been so busy with life, haven't had time to stop in and update...

We've had mostly a phone converstion relationship.  Which is quite alright with me.  He has his son for the summer. 

My 16 year old has moved back with me after his dad and gf broke up.  In fact, his dad has moved back into my house and lives on my couch. :smileysad:  I was diagnosed with cervical dysplasia.  I have surgery on 8/7.  I'm hoping my xdh is moving out this week...  I was hoping it would happen sooner, but 16 yr old totalled xdh's pick up.  So xdh had no way to leave.  Xdh bought a new vehicle yesterday, so I have my fingers crossed nothing else happens to keep him in my house!

On the bright side, having xdh here has solved my babysitter issue for when I want to go out with the gentleman mentioned above.  :smileyhappy:  I've been over to his house 2 or 3 times.  We just talk and watch tv.  It's like he's kind of a little 2 hr vacation from the rest of my life.  LOL

LC

 

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Sun, 07-29-2012 - 5:14pm

Oh, and we've gotten somewhat physical.  I can't have actual sex because of my cervical dysplasia.  He's pretty understanding about it.  His sister went thru it so he gets it. 

I wasn't really sure how I would feel or react about being physical with someone new.   But, it's been all good.  I will continue to look forward to my "vacations". :smileywink: