never married men and my kids
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| Sat, 05-10-2008 - 9:02pm |
I have been in contact with a guy who had never been married. I have two teens. We are the same age, he's pretty funny, very well educated, we have many of the same views on things. He lives far away, in a place I am hoping to move, but lately I have realized that circumstances are going to keep me in place for another two years (high school son refuses to move...I understand and would really like to keep him in the same school, younger kid wants to move to other location ASAP) Is it worth even pursuing this? I was scheduled to meet him on Friday, backed out, he has e-mailed me and called twice since then. I didn't answer the phone because I am not sure what to say.
I would really like to meet this person, but seeing as I have this kids issue, I am not sure it is fair. Plus, to be honest, I am wary of a person in their 40's who has never been married.
Does anyone have any thoughts? Advice?

I think..... (which means take what fits and leave the rest)
If you're not planning to move for another two years, there's not much point in developing a relationship.
How far away is he? Is it possible that you would do a long distance relationship for 2 years before you relocate? And how close have you gotten too him before meeting?
Laurie
I e-mail him and told him I was putting on the brakes. It could have been interesting. He actually called when he said he would! He was nice on the phone. I guess after years of verbal/emotional abuse from the ex, it was a thrill to know that some men actually do the things they say they will.
However, the kid thing takes priority, which I big part of me knows that childless men usually don't get.
I can see where putting up with years of verbal and emotional abuse would make you appreciate him - but I think you need one close by - that you can get to know slowly. The distance thing is too risky in my opinion. But the good thing is that if there is one there is more and you can see that good ones are out there and have faith again!!