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| Tue, 06-10-2008 - 8:53am |
I'm curious here for those of us 30'ish +
When you meet a man at our age that has never been married or never had children don't you sit back and wonder what the heck is wrong with him?
My mother married a 50 year old man who had never been married and never had any children. He's very head strong, and bossy. However in her case it works. She loves being the wife who waits on her husband hand and foot while he wears the pants in the family. She's happy.
I've dated a few men that had been married, but did not have children. However, I did date one WINNER that had never been married or had children and wow this has got to be my worst date story ever.. I had to take a break after this guy!
Funny story incoming!!!
So, this guy is 38 and we had been on 5 dates, and I was still unsure if I liked him. There was just something off. He was respectful yet our kisses were starting to get a bit heated. However I was just no where near ready to sleep with him.
One night I was having some computer problems that I had been working on all day, and the girls were asleep and he offered to come over and help. I was ok with that.. so he came over, fixed my computer problem in less than 15 mins and we hung out. After a while I was looking at the clock and I really wanted him to leave. Thats a sure fire way of telling myself that I'm just not into this guy when I start looking at the clock and crave to have my house back to myself! lol.
So, I ended up dozing off on the couch only to wake up to him standing in front of me totally naked and trying to shove it in my mouth!!! I'm so polite though, even though I was disgusted by him I still didn't have the heart to say omg you freak get the hell out of my house! lol. So I did the whole flailing arms sleep bit and pushed him away as I rolled over on the couch and turned my back to him. He just stood there for a while, I heard him walk off and go back into the bathroom, and then he came over to tell me that he was leaving.
THAT is what I'm talking about. I have this huge red flag up now for any man my age that has never been married. Usually there is a reason! lol.
Thats also why when there is something I just can't put my finger on.. I end it quickly now!

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Holy crap ! I cannot believe that he did that? Were you afraid at all that he might "force himself" on you? I would have been a little bit scared. Geez.
Yeah when I was on POF, I didn't respond to men that were nover married and never had children. I just don't think they would be on the same plane as me.
Ok, that qualifies for ‘Date from Hell Status!’
I have been dating a guy for about 6 months that is 46 and never married. No kids. I have always had reservations about someone who has never been married and no kids. We get along great and he is really a nice guy.
The only things that has me hesitating in this relationship are the fact that he has gained about 30 to 40 lbs since we met. He was a little on the heavy side when we met but I wanted to get to know him because we get along so well. I finally sat down and told him that I was concerned about his health and the fact that he doesn't seem to take very good care of himself. He agreed and I have been working with him on eating healthy and we have been going walking when we get together.
So, I am going to sit back and see if he makes some changes. I can't be with someone who doesn't take care of themselves. It isn't just the fact that the extra weight is physically unattractive, but also because I want someone who will be around for the long haul. Not someone who will always have chronic health problems or is unable to be active.
So maybe that is why he never married. He told me his weight has always been up and down. As far as that wacko that decided to "surprise" you, I don't think I could have handled it as tactfully as you did!! OMG!!!! Did you ever hear from him again??
Stephanie
Edited 6/10/2008 10:14 am ET by texas_mom1991
Holy crap!! What in the world was he thinking?!?!?
Waking up to a naked man is a very sexy thing... ONCE you are in a solid relationship with him! But on a simple dating level??? No way!!!!!! I wonder what was going through his head that made that move OKAY?!?? Yikes... that's balls. Oh yeah- and THOSE are balls too- as you could probably see them at the time. LOL
I'm not sure if I could've "kept cool" and just rolled over and pretended to sleep. I probably would've punched him at that point, just out of shock.
I would've stopped dating for awhile after that, too. I'd have lost all respect for all men for awhile- to know that
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Yah, that was about 6 months ago. I still get random emails from him wanting to know when he can see me again. Wow, talk about clueless lol. The emails have spaced out more and more though.. its been probably 3 weeks since he last emailed me and hmm probably 2 months since he stopped calling.
I flat out never spoke to him again. No nice explanation. If you can't figure it out then I'm sorry.
Psshh, and here I complain about men breaking it off. Maybe my inability to honestly break something off myself is Karma for the whole "its not you its me" crap lol.
However, in this case honestly I felt like any phone call, email, or text msg to tell him no would be a huge waste of my time. Sitting her picking my nose seemed more productive than to be nice and tell him thanks but no thanks.
and by then, it was too late."
Oh dear!
Just a thought...
ROFLMAO on the "balls" comment.
"Psshh, and here I complain about men breaking it off. Maybe my inability to honestly break something off myself is Karma for the whole "its not you its me" crap lol."
But this is the ONE time you could actually use the line "It's not me, it's YOU." lol But really- no replies to NakedMan is probably best! Any reply and he'd probably try to show up at your work without pants.
~shrimpy, feeling slightly slappy this morning
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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The whole crudeness of men amazes me. Like we're actually attracted or turned on by being spoken to like a porn star.
Oh, now this story you guys are going to find out what a geek I am lol.
I play this online game world of warcraft. My ex husband got me hooked on gaming, and its just something that I enjoy doing instead of watching tv at night when the girls sleep.
Now, I have a rule. I do not hook up with guys from the game, I don't do the whole cyber thing even though those guys are out there, and prey on us female gamers pathetically. However, I can get flirty at times, I'm guilty of that.
So... this guy I had been gaming with for over a year who is from Quebec.. well, he and I start talking about accents and the accents that make our knees melt. He says yah well if I were to say your name I would make you melt. (Michelle) so about a week later I see him in vent (our voice chat program) and he starts saying my name. And then he says "Does that make you wet Michelle?" With the accent heavy on my name. I burst out laughing.
He said you're laughing at me? I was like well yah, thats funny. LOL.. he got all upset and says "I don't think this is going to work out. I hit on you and you laugh at me" Wow, is this guy slightly insane? I think my intelligence was slightly insulted that I would seriously consider some ignorant gamer internet relationship with some guy from another freaking country.
There are crazy men out there everywhere thats for sure.
Yes, I'm a dork with the gaming.. I know this, I accept it, and I love myself still :p
and by then, it was too late."
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