Never married, no children insight...

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Never married, no children insight...
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 8:53am

I'm curious here for those of us 30'ish +


When you meet a man at our age that has never been married or never had children don't you sit back and wonder what the heck is wrong with him?


My mother married a 50 year old man who had never been married and never had any children. He's very head strong, and bossy. However in her case it works. She loves being the wife who waits on her husband hand and foot while he wears the pants in the family. She's happy.


I've dated a few men that had been married, but did not have children. However, I did date one WINNER that had never been married or had children and wow this has got to be my worst date story ever.. I had to take a break after this guy!


Funny story incoming!!!


So, this guy is 38 and we had been on 5 dates, and I was still unsure if I liked him. There was just something off. He was respectful yet our kisses were starting to get a bit heated. However I was just no where near ready to sleep with him.


One night I was having some computer problems that I had been working on all day, and the girls were asleep and he offered to come over and help. I was ok with that.. so he came over, fixed my computer problem in less than 15 mins and we hung out. After a while I was looking at the clock and I really wanted him to leave. Thats a sure fire way of telling myself that I'm just not into this guy when I start looking at the clock and crave to have my house back to myself! lol.


So, I ended up dozing off on the couch only to wake up to him standing in front of me totally naked and trying to shove it in my mouth!!! I'm so polite though, even though I was disgusted by him I still didn't have the heart to say omg you freak get the hell out of my house! lol. So I did the whole flailing arms sleep bit and pushed him away as I rolled over on the couch and turned my back to him. He just stood there for a while, I heard him walk off and go back into the bathroom, and then he came over to tell me that he was leaving.


THAT is what I'm talking about. I have this huge red flag up now for any man my age that has never been married. Usually there is a reason! lol.


Thats also why when there is something I just can't put my finger on.. I end it quickly now!

"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married,
and by then, it was too late."
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:25am
Ewwww...jacka$$. LOL OMG sounds like it could have been CP. After I had DD he used to push for the first few weeks to have sex and I would say no i wasnt healed yet, not ready yeat, to tired etc...we are talking 1-2-3 weeks post preggers and he would say ohh well can i at least get a blow*** then. ARE YOU SERIOUS....I swear there were sooooooooo many signs LOL
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:33am

Here's another good one...the men who seem to think that we'd like to see a photo of their member.

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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 12:37pm

OMG! That story is a nightmare! I think maybe some ment watch too much porn and believe that women get all turned on by that kind of move. I would have been horrified. My flinching reaction upon waking would have been to go get the broom and swat that thing outta the house. LOL!


Since we are on the subject of creepy overt things some guys do, here is what a good friend of mine got. Her boyfriend was in the Army and stationed overseas. Apparently he really missed her. He video taped himself "taking care of himself" and mailed it to her. He thought she would like that???? I still get the creeps when I think of that and the horror that must have been on her face when she put that thing in the VCR.


As for an older bachelor who has never been married with no kids, I don't really have an opinion as I have never dated one. But I would assume that some may not understand just how different your life is with kids. They are probably very used to being able to go anywhere anytime so it would be an adjustment for them to date a single mom, and take time for them to realize how kids take priority. Most would probably just not realize that-


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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 3:06pm

Ewwww and double Ewww. I would have freaked out and been very pissed off. You are lucky he wasn't a worse creep and forced himself on you. A reminder to all of us to be careful who you let in your house.

QB

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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 3:30pm

OMG, my sons are total WOW addicts. And they do tell me there are adults in their guild, I just have never actually run into an adult who admits to playing. I do know a young couple (early 20's) who are getting married next year who met through Runescape. And SHE is from Canada, LOL

QB

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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 4:26pm
LOL.. the average age of my guild is hmm 28. Tons of parents in our thirties.. and some people in their 50's even. Lots of couples play too. We like our adult guild and we have an age limit of 18+
"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married,
and by then, it was too late."
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 5:36pm
I can;t believe you kept your composure in that situation.
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 7:07pm

Apparently he really missed her. He video taped himself "taking care of himself" and mailed it to her. He thought she would like that????


You all are cracking me up with your stories.... ewww to all the others.. but sending the video tape.. i would LOVE that... lol.... I'm surprised Sean hasn't sent something like that... i guess i should give him the idea... LOL... too funny...


You know what's really gross... Did you see the episode of Dirty Jobs... where he had to artificially inseminate a cow... Totally gross. He had to stick his whole arm in the a$$ wh_le of the cow so that he could feel the cervex.. then insert the rod with the sperm into the cow's vagina... YUCK!


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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 7:19pm
EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 9:22pm

That is freaky! What are these guys thinking!? I dont know if it comes from watching too many porn movies or its just a low opinion of women.

I am dating a never been married no kids man over 40. But its because he is so reserved and happy in his singleness. He really is a sweetheart and ok with the kids idea. He is more reasonable with the kids than other men I have seen who have kids. He has a new house and an old car which are his kids. So it works out well. But he has a tough exterior that I am slowly breaking my way into. And I find him more and more interesting as I do. Hope it continues.

Laurie

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