Never married, no children insight...

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Never married, no children insight...
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Tue, 06-10-2008 - 8:53am

I'm curious here for those of us 30'ish +


When you meet a man at our age that has never been married or never had children don't you sit back and wonder what the heck is wrong with him?


My mother married a 50 year old man who had never been married and never had any children. He's very head strong, and bossy. However in her case it works. She loves being the wife who waits on her husband hand and foot while he wears the pants in the family. She's happy.


I've dated a few men that had been married, but did not have children. However, I did date one WINNER that had never been married or had children and wow this has got to be my worst date story ever.. I had to take a break after this guy!


Funny story incoming!!!


So, this guy is 38 and we had been on 5 dates, and I was still unsure if I liked him. There was just something off. He was respectful yet our kisses were starting to get a bit heated. However I was just no where near ready to sleep with him.


One night I was having some computer problems that I had been working on all day, and the girls were asleep and he offered to come over and help. I was ok with that.. so he came over, fixed my computer problem in less than 15 mins and we hung out. After a while I was looking at the clock and I really wanted him to leave. Thats a sure fire way of telling myself that I'm just not into this guy when I start looking at the clock and crave to have my house back to myself! lol.


So, I ended up dozing off on the couch only to wake up to him standing in front of me totally naked and trying to shove it in my mouth!!! I'm so polite though, even though I was disgusted by him I still didn't have the heart to say omg you freak get the hell out of my house! lol. So I did the whole flailing arms sleep bit and pushed him away as I rolled over on the couch and turned my back to him. He just stood there for a while, I heard him walk off and go back into the bathroom, and then he came over to tell me that he was leaving.


THAT is what I'm talking about. I have this huge red flag up now for any man my age that has never been married. Usually there is a reason! lol.


Thats also why when there is something I just can't put my finger on.. I end it quickly now!

"I never knew what real happiness was until I got married,
and by then, it was too late."

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Avatar for mhash
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 1:22am

I disagree with the connection of someone never been married to the behavior of sticking his genitalia into your mouth while sleeping.

My stereotype of someone never married is a gal/guy self centered and set in his/her ways. Anything beyond that then I'm not sure if I assume more.

Plus if men (not so much women) who never had children then I assume they are not as caring or compassionate and selfish.

I also know all those are stereotypical assumptions.

Mark





We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb







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Registered: 12-06-1998
Wed, 06-11-2008 - 5:32am

Oh eponine!!!!! I'm afraid I laughed when I read your story. What on earth was going on in his head? *I* would have been thinking "She fell asleep I must be boring", not "what an opportunity ....."! Gawd. I'm glad he didn't try anything more & you were safe from the creep.

Mark you comment "I disagree with the connection of someone never been married to the behavior of sticking his genitalia into your mouth while sleeping" had me in hysterics! ROFLOL

 



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