New and seeking advice

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Registered: 10-20-2004
New and seeking advice
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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 4:02pm

Hi All!


As for the basics...single mommy of two boys 12 and 7.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 4:32pm

Welcome, Des!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 4:43pm

Welcome aboard! Well if you have been following my whining of the last week, I recently got dumped by my first romance post-divorce. It took me about a year and a half from getting divorced to even wanting to deal with anyone (and I found a loon). The reason he dumped me (I guess) is that I wanted to put off him meeting my kids until I was sure we were somewhat committed. So his solution was to never speak to me again...

Moral: glad I didn't do it. He did the exact thing I was trying to make sure my kid wouldn't have to deal with...another man blowing her off! (Father is exhibiting very bad behavior this summer).

Anyhoo, in my case, I am plunging back into the pool. I liked having a male friend, especially liked that I didn't have to live with him! As far as meeting my kids, my rule, created with the input of the fine women here, is no meet until I hear some sort of LT plan from him.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 5:15pm

Welcome to the board.


Dating is a personal decision and only YOU know when the time is right to jump back into the pool.


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Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 9:13am

Welcome! Im sorry your X is a loser, & your career is a bit difficult - but you have a great education & eventually you WILL be where you want to be careerwise.


As for dating, dont feel as if you HAVE to. Do it when you WANT to. Whne you feel the need. There is no reason to rush into it.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 1:15pm

Welcome to the board!

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 2:40pm

Welcome aboard!


I am sorry to hear about your 2+ year relationship ending, and your kids getting hurt. I know you feel guilt, but this was not your fault. Eventaully, all of us let someone into our lives because we want to enrich our kids lives..we neve bring someone in when we think they will get hurt. I bet that it IS hard for you to think about trying again..now wanting to risk it.


For those of you who have been doing the single and dating thing how long do you wait?

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