New BF's best buddy is annoying
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New BF's best buddy is annoying
| Thu, 05-29-2008 - 3:49pm |
Okay new boyfriend and I of 3 months are doing great.
| Thu, 05-29-2008 - 3:49pm |
Okay new boyfriend and I of 3 months are doing great.
Personally, I don't think you are out of line with your thinking.
I agree. I felt it was my boyfriend's place to tell his friend not now but sometimes my BF can be too nice and not want to hurt anyone's feelings.
Tred lightly, say your observations light heartedly but honestly, then step back and watch for signs that his friend/s time is more important than your time together.
Keep your eyes open and don't try to make excuses for him in your head
Hi and welcome!!
Well, I know what you are going through.
Sorry, I disagree. His friend has 11 years and you have, what 3 months?
I'm only saying that because if one of my
This should help you feel better. My FAMILY does that to me all the time, showing up at my house with no forewarning. My mother is the worst culprit. She has walked in (when M comes in I often forget to relock the front door) as in just plows open my front door, no knock or anything, in the middle of our having a nice romantic dinner. We've had to leave and go to his house just to have some privacy (remember, I was "sharing custody" of our mother with my brother). This stuff really bothers M and he knows I've asked them to call first, and specifically told my mother not to come before 8 pm when she was coming to stay to watch D4. But he can't complain too much as his X does the same thing. She showed up with their D15 and had the poor girl call from the driveway and then just start banging on the door. Uh, we were.......well it turned out very embarrassing for all concerned. At least M had remembered to lock the front door, like me, he often leaves it unlocked.
So really, I have to say the problem lies with the friend. If your car was visible when he showed up, then he knew exactly what he was doing and either is a total lout or is trying to stir up trouble between the two of you. Hopefully, your boyfriend can try to explain it is normal courtesy to call first (and not from the other side of the front door), he does after all expect some privacy in his life.But don't expect your BF to be able to control this friend. One can set boundaries all one wants, getting others to respect those boundaries is a whole other ballgame.
QueenBun
"I only see my boyfriend on the weekends so I cherish every limited moment i get."
So... this is the problem... not the fact that the friend was there- isn't that true?