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| Wed, 04-05-2006 - 1:16am |
I haven't met any guys that attracted my attention since I was with my little boy's dad. He and I don't even talk anymore...he's not interested in being a father. :( But anyway, I met this guy the other night when I was visiting my friend, Sara, and he seems like a good guy. He's not even from the same town as me. He lives 4 hours away. We only went out one night and then the lunch the next day when we were both visiting Sara at college (he and his friend came in town to visit her, too, so we all stayed at her apartment and all went out that night and to lunch the next day) So, I don't know him THAT well. It just seemed we really hit if off. He called me today and we talked for about an hour. I think maybe that this is all ridiculous because we're talking about seeing each other again already. I know that I always jump into things too fast and I'm afraid that either I'll get hurt or I'll ending up hurting him. But, he is definately interested in me and I would like to see him again. I don't know....what do you all think??
Amanda

Hi, Amanda, and welcome!
I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with seeing him again, if you want to! Just don't rush into a relationship. Take things slow, and enjoy his company! Dating can be fun, it doesn't have to be a serious, lifetime commitment every time you meet someone new.
As long as you're both upfront and honest about your expectations, there's nothing wrong with just dating for the fun of it, especially if he's the first guy you've been interested in after a long term relationship.
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He lives 4 hours away - to me that would make me not want to consider him - especially since I have a child.
I would take it slow and see what happens over time and keep your eyes and options open for someone closer.
Good luck - welcome to our board - and keep us posted - we are always here for you no matter what you decide.
Stephanie
Thanks for the advice! I think I'm going to take things slow...just have a little flirty fun with it. I don't think I'm exactly ready for a long term relationship yet and even if I were, I think I need someone that lives closer so he can spend time with me and my baby!
Amanda
My thoughts are, if you aren't interested in a relationship, then this long distance may be the right thing for you. I mean the reality is, being a single mom with a baby is hard, very hard (been there done that). HOWEVER, having a guy around 24/7 can also be very time consuming. A guy that is 4 hours away, may not be the worst catch to have at the moment. He won't be around all the time due to the distance and it gives you time to connect with your daughter more. Also, you don't want someone so soon around your baby. This will confuse her; no matter how old she is. So positive and negative long distance