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| Mon, 12-19-2005 - 10:57am |
Hi! I am a separated Mom of three kids (10, 8 & 6). I have been dating this really great guy for a couple of months now and I couldn't be happier w/ it. He has a son the same age as my oldest. I met his son after only a few weeks (he has him full time) and the son and I have gotten REALLY close. He JUST met my kids, which was a HUGE step for me, introducing them to someone so soon. Overall things are WONDERFUL! I am just having a hard time w/ the whole trying to take it slow approach and not jump in head first, though I guess we sorta have. I spent ALL my time that I don't have the kids w/ him, we agreed to date exclusively...HOW do you take it slow? My heart is just soaring but he and I have both agreed we just want to enjoy each other and not put to much thought into things, just sorta take them where they are for now. I am fairly certain I am falling hard, but trying to keep my feet on the ground (I have only been separated 8 mths).
Input?
Emmi

HI Emmi,
It is good that you sound so happy right now. But I would caution you to slow down by focusing on finalizing your divorce and putting your life in order. Do you have an amicable situation with your ex? And for visition, etc.?
I think you should make sure you get to find a way to become your own person again - otherwise you are just jumping from the frying pan into the fire so to speak - you have to know why you made a poor choice so you don't do that again and especially when you have 3 kids involved.
You did ask how to keep it slow - and that is by not spending so much time together.
Good luck - keep us posted.
Emmi,
Welcome to the board.