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| Sun, 04-27-2008 - 10:31am |
Hello everyone,
I have been lurking for a few weeks here, and I am so impressed with the support you ladies give each other. I am about 3 months away from getting a final divorce. I have 2 boys, 16, and 12 and I live with them. I am 38 years old.
I am scared, anxious, excited about entering the dating world, and love to read your stories. Some of them make me laugh out loud.
I am relatively new to my area, and I dont have any friends, and I have been quite lonely for some time. Not desperate, just lonely.
I joined a dating site on the Internet, but I have to tell you I am scared to death. What do i talk about? What do I wear? haha Can you ladies remember your "first" time and give me some pointers?
I know 38 isn't OLD, but I was married for 18 years, and now to start getting out there makes me feel like I am a teenager again, all giggles and sweaty palms...will it get easier??
Thanks for your support !!!

Welcome!! Glad to hear you found us!!
I think for now since you are not yet divorced you should concentrate on getting that done and on re-establishing your life as a single. Just because I know that dating is a strain and if you are happier on your own you will weather it better and be more picky.
But if you want to dab your toe - who am I to say no, right? LOL!!
Since you asked - I think you just have to be you - wear something that makes you feel good about you - that is attractive but not too sexy. If you have a lot of your own interests and stay up on the news then you can carry on a great conversation - maybe that is one more reason to have your life going good again socially so you are not too lonely and you have things in common and stuff to say?
The only thing I can caution, is be careful of guys who come on too strong sexually - because that is usually all they are after and they will come on real strong with that initially and then disappear - and that is most painful. If you take the time to get to know someone and make sure they are into you, it will be a better experience. Also it is better to concentrate on whether or not you like them rather than trying to impress. There are a lot of good books listed in my profile.
I am sure the others will come and give more great advice too. We hope you stick around and participate in our threads! Can never have too many opinions on board for sure.
Good luck and keep us posted!
Welcome to the board!
I agree with everything Judy says, from waiting til your divorce is final to being happy on your own.
Well, TAKH, I was in almost
Dang- between Alison and Soonee... I have nothing more to add. Seriously good posts, just CHOCK FULL of great info! Stuff I wish I'd have known when I got divorced and started dating again. But I survived, even though I learned some of those things the hard way... it's all TRUE STUFF.
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I have to agree with Shrimps - Judy, Alison and Soonee have really outdone themselves with their advice on this post.
I will reiterate something Soonee said, because I personally believe it it one of the most important things