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| Thu, 12-07-2006 - 9:52am |
Okay, I am new here and have found myself in need of advice recently.
I have been in very bad, controlling, abusive relationships in the past. I spent about a year after my last divorce just trying to pull myself back together and figure out why I allowed these things to happen to me. I did get to a better place and began dating again.
I now have no problem telling a man to get lost when I decide I need to. My problem is I don't know if I really need to. I feel I have become hardened and distrustful to a fault. I think it is only natural to be overly cautious after having lived what I have in the past, but I don't think I give anyone a fair chance now.
If a man doesn't like pets, I automatically assume he is mean. I don't consider that his life may be too busy to properly care for an animal.
I don't want my naive innocence back, but I also don't want to be hard hearted and judgemental without cause. Is there a happy medium out there, and if so, how do I find it?
Am I destined to be alone forever, or is the only hope for me in a shrinks office?!
Any advice would be appreciated..........
I have been in very bad, controlling, abusive relationships in the past. I spent about a year after my last divorce just trying to pull myself back together and figure out why I allowed these things to happen to me. I did get to a better place and began dating again.
I now have no problem telling a man to get lost when I decide I need to. My problem is I don't know if I really need to. I feel I have become hardened and distrustful to a fault. I think it is only natural to be overly cautious after having lived what I have in the past, but I don't think I give anyone a fair chance now.
If a man doesn't like pets, I automatically assume he is mean. I don't consider that his life may be too busy to properly care for an animal.
I don't want my naive innocence back, but I also don't want to be hard hearted and judgemental without cause. Is there a happy medium out there, and if so, how do I find it?
Am I destined to be alone forever, or is the only hope for me in a shrinks office?!
Any advice would be appreciated..........

Welcome!!
I think it is better to be too cautious than not enough.
If you LOVE pets, there is nothing wrong with nixing a man who doesn't like them. This shows that you are putting yourself first. And that is what you SHOULD do!
I think that if you participate here and share your dating stories as they happen, we can all pitch in with our advice and stories and that will help you a lot!
Good luck - hope you stick around.