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| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 1:58pm |
Hi Everyone -
I am new to this board...and so excited to have found it. I have just recently started jumping into the dating pool, I have dipped my toe in a couple of times and now ready to dive on in.
Ok, here is my big dilemma....I have met a dad who's son is playing baseball with one of mine. He has asked me the other day if I was still marrried, and we talk a little at the games, we went together (with the kids) to a small festival in our community park but somehow got seperated. He seems to like me....but how do you know? I have no clue when someone is hitting on me or has any interest in me. It's been a long time since I have dated and my skills are not up to speed.
Thanks for any help!!!
Krisy

Hi Krisy and welcome to our board! I think it's wonderful that you are dating again, and that you seem to have the interest of a man with children.
That being said, it is hard to know if a man is interested in you. It's hard to know that, whether you've been dating forever or just started dating again after years, I think. Sometimes men are easier to "read" than others.
Some men, like our Aces, are straightforward and open about their intent. They come right out and say, "hey, I think you're cute, and sweet, and I'd like to get to know you better on a romantic level." These men are very rare, and very refreshing, since they don't play games, except maybe scrabble. The only issue with these men is if they're ready for more than you are, earlier than you are.
Other men are more the beat-around-the-bush type, and might be a little more subtle. They'll ask if you're still married when they run into you at your children's baseball games (sound familiar?) and casually start to go places with you. The conversations you have with these men will be casual and will drive you nuts, since they can be taken any number of ways. They could be your friendly, run of the mill conversations, or they could be taken as, hey, this guy might like me and want to get to know me better conversations. But, it will be hard for you to know without asking him or going with it until he makes it obvious by making a move on you. Waiting can be fun though- if you don't go crazy in the meantime.
Still other men are dense as thickets, and will never get up the gumption to actually initiate any conversations with you, they'll simply pine away for you forever, or will be so wishy-washy, you'll go insane trying to figure them. They'll give you mixed signals and have you second guessing yourself at every turn. They might not even respond initially to you, thinking you're too sweet, hot, smart, good, nice, whatever for the likes of little old them. These men are only for you if you can handle all of the emotional baggage they come with, and are confident enough in yourself to handle whatever games they play, because they will.
Don't worry at all about your dating skills- dating is fun! You only need to enjoy yourself, and most importantly, be yourself! Any guy who is worthy of you will like you for you, not for the fact that you're adept at batting your eyelashes and smiling coyly- something my daughter and I both had mastered at 3, by the way. It still hasn't gotten either of us anywhere but trouble!
Moody- who has evidently turned nicotene withdrawal into psycho-babble
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"Waiting can be fun though- if you don't go crazy in the meantime."....and it is driving me crazy!
Krisy
WElCOME KRISY!!
Moody does an excellent job.
My answer - you just *know* - his jaw drops, his face lights up, he asks you questions and wants to please you and take you out. No wishy washy or mixed messages.
Don't settle for anything less!!
I am curious to hear how others tell, too.
We hope you stick around and participate in our discussions and posts!!
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YES - Aces posts are GREAT.
One caution. Many guys feel sorry for single moms but don't see a future with them. So they put you in a sex only category - or they simply see you as an easy target for sex. A guy that comes on real strong sexually at the beginning is only out for one thing.
It is best, in my humble opinion, to hold back your heart a bit and let time take its course. ACTIONS speak louder than words - does he do what he says he is going to do? Is he calling on a regular basis? Making plans in advance (versus calling at 11PM for a booty call or at the last minute to join him and his friends)?
If you participate in our posts here you will be able to tell from the stories of others what is good versus what is less desirable.
Hope this helps and that you have a lot of fun and find someone great for you who is into you!!
Personally I assume they aren't interested unless they make it clear they are interested.
Hi Kristy and welcome to the board!
I think it's too early to tell what his intentions are, so for now just act as if he's a friend and nothing more.