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| Sat, 04-14-2007 - 1:04pm |
Hi everyone! My name is Carrie, i am 29, I have three great kids, Rachel(6)Todd(4)& Chase(3mos). I was married for six years to the father of my first two kids, and have been divorced for two years. I met my bd a year ago and got preggo after only dating him for two months( was on birth control). Anyways, i met him through the first guy i was dating since divorce. The guy i was dating was 20! I really liked him alot but bd kept telling me that marc was too young for me and that i should give him a chance.(bd is 27). I don't even know how it happened bcuz i never even really liked him that much but i thought maybe he was right about the whole age difference thing and so i broke it off with marc, and started seeing him. Went out with him for a couple of months, decided did not like him enough to date anymore and found out that i was pregnant. Stayed with him because of that reason but broke up when i was six months along. We tried it again after chase was born and it never worked out. He still comes to see chase every other weekend.My problem is that i have the strongest urge to call marc! When we broke up we both still really liked each other and now when i run into him i can tell there is still something there. I would really like to start seeing him again but he is friends w/bd and i dont know what kind of reception i would get. So can u ladies give me your opinions please. Thanx.

Hi there, and welcome. I normally don't advocate contacting men, especially men you've dated before. However, it's your life, and feel free to ignore my advice. I do on a regular basis ;-)
I would say just make it clear you're open to the possibilities when you do run into him, and see if he takes the bait. Either he will or he won't, but that way he's doing the pursuing, and you're not putting yourself out there. The successful relationships I've seen are nearly always ones in which the man pursued the woman.
Moody, not a pursuer
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Hi goddess and welcome!
If I was you, I would try to sit back and see what Marc does. He is young and he is friends with the other guy. I think waiting would be to your advantage because it would let the issue of his friend become a little less important - with everything better settled in. Also, if Marc really wants you he will make it known.
If you really feel inclined and cannot sit tight, contacting Marc and letting him know you are up for something might just do one of 2 things: 1) show you he has no interest so you can move on or 2) show him you are interested so he would feel free to contact you if he was thinking about it.
I just think time will help settle things a little better. I mean, one question to consider and to help you understand where Marc is coming from. How would you feel if your best friend dated a guy, got pregnant and then things didn't work out - would you want to date that guy? I am not sure I could - but maybe in time?