New Here..hi girlies!

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Registered: 01-28-2008
New Here..hi girlies!
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Fri, 02-15-2008 - 12:18pm
Ok,so I am new here.Actually I am new to ALL of this.After finding myself divorced and back into this world that I feel like a alien in sometimes I feel so lost.I have started over with my 4 year old son and find myself thinking that maybe its time I start dating again.Im not sure I want to get serious as it makes me feel frantic thinking about it all but I started feeling after my mother made the suggestion that it wouldnt be wrong to just start as she put it, "getting out there!"I work at a Army facility as a nurse and meet many men but nothing suitable for really dating as I am helping send them off to war! The trouble with this is....and what a kicker...I am very outgoing,the life of the party etc..just a eccentric soul that loves to laugh...BUT...when it comes to getting around men that I am attracted to or would find myself interested in....I TOTALLY become shy and clam up.Its very embarressing! I know my self esteem has suffered dramatically.I know I am moderately attractive I do get stares and hit on alot..but when it comes to the,"real" thing..I freeze up.I know some of this probably stems from some emotional abuse I suffered from at the hands of my ex

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 1:34pm

First of all WELCOME to our board! I think you'll love it here! WE have quite a few new members lately that can relate to how you feel right now. I've been divorced about 7 years and had many years to reflect and learn and grow from my emotional abused days, but I can definitely understand how it felt back then. I think you need to take one day at a time and a few confidence boosters. I know we have some terrific ladies that can give you the perfect advice.


As for the older guy thing? I could pass a few on to you, if you pass a few lower to mid thirties over to me! I'm tired of the old men hitting on me. I'm only 36, not 56! :(


What part of the states do you live in? We have QUITE a few nurses on this board! You'll fit RIGHT in!

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Registered: 01-28-2008
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 2:00pm

Thank You for my warm welcome! I actually live in MS! I am sure I could ship a few your way...I really dont know when this happened...its like I all of a sudden jumped age brackets and my taste in men changed!! Thanks for your kind words.I didnt see that I was being emotionally abused even though others seen it and mentioned it to me,its sad that I just didnt know any better and stayed that long.I work in what would be a probably considered a "target rich enviroment" just dont want to get attached cause I know that would be certain heartbreak..I know though alot of the soldiers think its a hot idea to try to hook up with the nurse..lol..just kidding..yeah I have recently started some soul searching to try to think of ways to improve myself in alot of aspects as far as physical I have bought some new.."HOT MAMA" clothes lol but I have alot of internal work to do,mainly got to go past the FREEZING up thing!!! Thanks!!


Im Alaina by the way!

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 2:42pm

Hi Alaina,


Im fairly new here myself...on about 1 week and I can tell you that the relief of finding this and the level of support that ive gotten is amazing.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 2:55pm

Heyyyyyy the whole older guy thing......!


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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 2:56pm

"On the older guy thing...Do you know what an old mans scrotum smells like..........depends Get it??? Gross I know...LOL"


OMG- good thing I wasn't drinking anything when I read that!!!!! Gross for sure, but hilarious and unexpected!


Welcome to Alaina!!! I'm a nurse, too!


~shrimpy, eating dark chocolate

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 3:01pm
Mark...present scrotum excluded of course!!!!!
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 3:06pm

Also..sorry I know this is long..I am 27 and finding myself attracted to older men??Is that insane??


~Pacific~
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Registered: 12-28-2004
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 3:32pm

"On the older guy thing...Do you know what an old mans scrotum smells like..........depends"

LMAO!!!! Thank for the laugh today I even snorted on that one!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 3:49pm

Thanks but since I have not checked how it smells ....


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Registered: 08-08-2007
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 3:50pm

Mark who thinks he may have to get some scrotum deodorant ...


I'm both LMAO and slightly queasy at the same time

~Pacific~
~Pacific~

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